Help A Relationship Addict

You can't help how you feel. Don't go to the other extreme to compensate for the extreme feelings of vulnerability (avoiding emotional intimacy), you will end up like me. The danger is that you might associate all relationships with pain because of this woman and it will sabotage your future relationships. The vicious cycle will continue until you can say 'no' (to her) for the sake of your own emotional health and then spend some time healing. Co dependency is an extremely destructive emotional dynamic because it takes away from your power to create the internal stability you need to navigate a healthy relationship. It's weird how people get into relationships when they are stable and can easily lose their footing if they don't preserve a separate sense of identity and purpose (I think you need to work on this constantly, but then I think there has been some over compensation going on with me for a while now). Also I don't think relationships follow scripts. You have to let them take their own course and become what they want to become. Having said this, don't close your mind (to other people you might meet). I think I could learn a lot from a 'relationship addict'- I've gone too far the other way out of self-protection.