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Postby healedangel22 » Sun Sep 18, 2011 11:55 am

I have been going out with my boyfriend for like 2 weeks now but have known him for over 6 months. This is our story. We got together when he was at the hospital so they could change his medication. He is currently on house arrest until November because his ex-girlfriend said he slapped her. He says he didn't but since my boyfriend has schizo-bipolar, Im not sure if he would even remember doing it. Anyways, his ex has started calling him repeatedly and saying she is pregnant with his baby. I advised him to do a restraining order against her so she can't call him but he hasn't. Everytime they talk, he gets upset and ends up calling me right after and I have to try to calm him down which normally works but Im scared that instead of calming him down, I am shutting him down. I think this because when he called me after his ex called him, he started telling me what all his ex said and I stopped him and told him to not tell me what she said and to stop replaying the conversation in his head. He then stopped talking completly except for single word sentences. If you can even consider one word being a sentence. I don't know if I am giving him the right advice and being supportive by not letting him tell me everything she told him. Can anyone help?
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Re: Need advice please!

Postby Chucky » Mon Sep 19, 2011 8:46 pm

Hi,

He should not be talking to her at all. He should change his number (and obviously not inform her of what his new number is) and then move on with his life. it is entirely unfair on you for him to be moaning to you about his ex. A problem from his past shouldn't be a problem in your and his future together. However, at the moment, he's doing everything to keep this problem tagging along. By answering her calls/messages, he is just hurting himself, her, and you. He has to cease all contact and only speak to her through the courts/lawyers.

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Re: Need advice please!

Postby zausel » Tue Sep 20, 2011 5:02 am

its unfair to you for him to bring his ex's issues at you...obviously hes not over her or he would have blocked her number..
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Re: Need advice please!

Postby healedangel22 » Tue Sep 20, 2011 10:38 am

I ended up breaking up with him and he showed his nasty true self :(
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Re: Need advice please!

Postby Chucky » Tue Sep 20, 2011 7:30 pm

Search for the silver lining my friend... move on swiftly to your next adventure in your (one that does'nt feature/include him).

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