Attachement disorder?

I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this post but it seemed to be the closet one to my questions.
I think I may have some form of an attachment disorder. I am a happily married mother of a 6 month old. All is right in my world. My husband is wonderful and my daughter is to die for! But I always have this nagging feeling like I don't really know how to love them, to be emotionally attached to them. What I mean is, if I am away from them for any amount of time, I'm fine with it. I don't miss them. When my daughter is sleeping, I can forget she is there! (although she is totally safe in her crib a room away from me) I feel like these aren't normal feeling for a mother to have. If I am visiting my parents without my husband, I can easily forget to call him because I just haven't thought of him. I'm scared this is going to affect my relationship with my daughter as she grows up. I don't feel sad when she is crying. I absolutely attend to her needs and she certainly is being hugged and kissed and loved plenty! I just feel like I should feel more attached to her.

Does anyone have any insight into this?

Hi, AsMomma! You could ask a doctor about this. You could go to your regular doctor and ask them to send you to a psych who might be able to tell you what is going on. Have you been through anything really traumatic or do you usually lack empathy?
We can't diagnose you here, by the way, we're not professionals, but feel free to talk here.

Hi there AsMomma

I had my daughter last year, i use to question, examine and compare every inch of the care i was giving her and was convinced i was faling her in all corners of her life. I was then diagnosied with postnatle depression, and came to except that i was being extreamly hard on myself.

quote]What I mean is, if I am away from them for any amount of time, I'm fine with it. I don't miss them. When my daughter is sleeping, I can forget she is there![/quote]

Please correct me if im wrong, but its really OKAY to enjoy time on your own hun. I too forget to call my partner and cheak on my daughter when i've been away from them for a long time, but its okay. I even forget her when she's in her cot taking a nap (have to set an alarm). But its fine, lol no damage done
Maybe the fact you dont feel sad when she's crying is a helpful thing. Can you imagine how hard it would be to think clearly if every time she cryed you felt like crying (trust me its hard, lol.)

This being said it would'nt hurt to talk with a doctor or someone involved in you daughters care, i think you could really take alot out of it, they can be a huge support.
Has your little girl got any cheak ups coming up? Perhaps you could informaly bring up your concerns with someone then, or like jasmin suggests visit your regular doctor.

Do you enjoy your daughter when your with her? Did you feel the same before your daughter came along? Hows your mood usually? Has your partner mentioned anything?

I think your worries probably are quite normal, i know that doesn't take away how they make you feel though.. but it can help towards it

Hope my post has been of some comfort, please keep posting

x

worrying about them 24/7 wouldnt be healthy either. You do need your alone time too. You said your not neglecting her or anything so i wouldnt think anything is wrong. You cant be worried about everyone all the time or youll start getting some nasty healthy issues from the stress.

but if it worries you, you can visit your doctor and discuss it with him.

are yo uever leaving her unattended for hours on end?