what to do what to do????

Hello, Im Mari. I have a long time guy friend (27 years) with Asburgers (sp?). I am seperated from my husband, and he has been making, well, kinda advances to me. Not sexually nessassarly, but he says things like "I want to take care of you forever, I love you, we need to find a house and live togather, we need to go see your daughter (she lives half way across the country). I have gently reminded him that I am married and hubby and I are working on our marrage, that I live with my dad and he needs me (Im the only kid in town for him), etc. He leaves the subject alone for about a week and a half or so, but then comes on even stronger to the point Im becomming increasingly uncomfortable. Should I keep up with the reminders, am I saying it wrong? Any advice?

Asburgers? I never heard from this do you mean Aspergers? Lol I think you need to ask him if he wants to stay friends with you, because you can not be friends with someone who's in love with you and so 'pushy'! It sounds simple, but I've been kind of a stalker myself and for me this sentence worked since I didn't wanted to completely lose the person I was stalking. Although everyone is different. I've got a friend with Aspergers, he fell for a normal friend twice and was a bit pushy in showing his love. His female friends both couldnt take it anymore, so they just cut off all contact. Somehow I can understand this, but its also too harsh in my opinion. I had a 'sexual relationship' with him, but sometimes he was also a bit pushy in trying to kiss me. I was not good at saying no, so it ended when I started to cry and of course he was upset. Do not let this happen to you and don't give your friend hope that it could work out when you know you 'have no feelings for him at the moment! But it does not seem that he gets the message right now. Have you said this in a friendly way or have you also been angry at him and how did he react? In the end, Í'm still friends with the guy with Asperger, so it's possible to stay friends! Although he was not really in love with me but still.

Stop communicating for awhile and focus on your life/the relationship with your husband. This friend isn't helping the situation.

I don't think person in question is right person in your life. You should cut your relationship with him for the being to take some time to think about. Personally I feel like if a person is not careful about your well being than he is not worth having.

And in my view your best interests fall with you uniting with your hubby once again it will make your daughter feel good as well most probably if things are OK with her.

Good Luck!