How to communicat better

Does anyone have some tips on how they communicate? I am having a lot of trouble in this area, for some reason cannot seem to be able to communicate with my boyfriend.

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Hi Art4Life,

Is there anything in particular that you want to discuss or say to your boyfriend?

If you find it hard to talk face-to-face, perhaps there are other ways that you can communicate. Sometimes writing a note or an e-mail can be easier.

Hi Art4Life,

what are you trying to communicate,
what method are you using to communicate?
what is he not understanding/unhappy about with your communication?

Art4Life wrote:Does anyone have some tips on how they communicate? I am having a lot of trouble in this area, for some reason cannot seem to be able to communicate with my boyfriend.

Communication is 75% body language and 25% the words you say. Try standing or sitting next to him (in a car is a good place) and turn off electronics and just talk. Don't forget to give him time to think/respond.

alm_918 wrote:

Art4Life wrote:Does anyone have some tips on how they communicate? I am having a lot of trouble in this area, for some reason cannot seem to be able to communicate with my boyfriend.

Communication is 75% body language and 25% the words you say. Try standing or sitting next to him (in a car is a good place) and turn off electronics and just talk. Don't forget to give him time to think/respond.

Good response.

Platypus wrote:Hi Art4Life,

Is there anything in particular that you want to discuss or say to your boyfriend?

If you find it hard to talk face-to-face, perhaps there are other ways that you can communicate. Sometimes writing a note or an e-mail can be easier.

There is nothing in particular that I want to say but the lack of taking about how I feel. I always managed to say the wrong thing, a lot. I have never been a good person at expressing my self. Or saying what is on my mind.

-- Sat Aug 06, 2011 9:51 pm --

katana wrote:Hi Art4Life,

what are you trying to communicate,
what method are you using to communicate?
what is he not understanding/unhappy about with your communication?

How I feel, I get very closed off. Or when I am thinking about doing something that will be good for the both of us I dont really say it. But mostly about how I feel. Most of the methods I use are all verbal. He is mostly unhappy about my lack of communicating.

Art4Life wrote:There is nothing in particular that I want to say but the lack of taking about how I feel. I always managed to say the wrong thing, a lot. I have never been a good person at expressing my self. Or saying what is on my mind.

So where do you think you are getting stuck Art4Life?
Is it that you don't notice your feelings?
Or you notice them but you don't know how to identify or articulate them?
Or that you know what they are but don't feel able to talk to anybody about them?