bf just broke up with me

Im very frustrated. I met this guy in a recovery house that I am staying at. He always respected me and kept boundaries such as not touching me when I didnt want touched. He has never hurt me. However, last night he wrote me a letter saying I broke his heart. You want to know how? I always talk to this one guy about my problems because he relates to me and helps me. But he finally told me he was jeoulous and that if I loved him, I would talk to him about things that are bothering me since he is my boyfriend. So I wrote him back saying we shouldnt be going out if he doesnt want me talking to other dudes about my problems because right now I need a lot of support. Is me talking to other people about my problems wrong? I don't get it. I just dont feel like I can talk to my bf about my problems because he doesnt relate. I am frustrated and he now reminds me of my grandfather because he is started being controlling. Now I at least am not going out with him no more so I can continue talking like I need to to whom I need to without feeling guilty. Will someone please tell me if I am in the wrong?

XX Tinkerbell XX

You're not in the wrong. If he believes that you mustn't talk to other guys about things, then he has a problem with control and lacks some common sense. Common sense would have told him that males and females can talk about things without any sexual tension arising; and if he understood 'control', then he would understand that he doesn't control you. You are entitled to do what you please, and if he is not happy with it, then perhaps it was best to end it ... ... I hope that he learns from all of this. For the moment, just don't talk to him and let him mull it over (i.e. think about it). Maybe then he'll learn.

You certainly are not in the wrong.

Kevin

Thanks Kevin

i can relate to this an i think your doing whats right.
i went through sumthing similar with my friends. my psych told me they were tryin to control me in a bad way, but i didnt wana believe her. i told them i was seeing a psych an joked about what she said an then they didnt wana hang out with me. they said i shouldnt be talkin about them to sumone else an that i wasnt being jenuwin (? god i need to ask my english tutor how to spell that). i see now they dnt even want me to get help so im probly much better off without them.

We are going back out now because he apologized to me. I'm sorry u went through the same experience tho. It's not fun in any way.

XX Tinkerbell XX

We are going back out now because he apologized to me. I'm sorry u went through the same experience tho. It's not fun in any way.

XX Tinkerbell XX

Don't get any decision, event, thing so hard in the life, as after some time whatever how is hard will become softer..so u will just have lost nerves.