Relationship problesm

My husband and I have so many problems, its hard to know where to begin. We were both sexually assaulted when we were young, me 10, him 12. This is both of ours second marriage. And I really do think we love each other. His one and only son committed suicide 3 1/2 years ago, The same day my daughter got married. There has been alcohol abuse and domestic abuse on both sides of our families. Where do I begin? Our marriage is falling apart.

Please help!

First, I think you need to take a deep breath and relax. It seems like you are extremely stressed out right now from everything that is going on in your life.

Second, I do have a question for you.. What makes you "think" your in love? I'm sorry, I know it sounds kind of odd to ask but it just seems weird to me that someone thinks that they are in love when they are in a marriage with someone... however I can see where the questioning comes from due to all the complications that have occurred in the marriage.

How long have you two been married?