Am I psychologically cheating on my girfriend by doing this?

When I'm with my gf I have to picture other women during sex. My girlfriend doesn't work for some reason. But I need other images of other women to get hard reach an orgasm. My friend told me I'm cheating and that maybe I should break up with her cause it's not fair. My mom told me the same thing, and please don't ask me how I got on the conversation with my mom. So am I cheating, really? I want to keep her to see where it goes and I'm following my heart I think.

Hi harmonica,

If your gf comes to know that you have to remind another woman during sex with her, then i am sure she will get upset major. It may hurt her feelings. Don't ever try to tell her. She will think i have no capacity to satisfy you. It may be killing for her. So it is safe, you just enjoy your sex with this, keep these things far away from your gf.

I don't think it's cheating, no...it's probably quite common. You never know, she's maybe doing the same thing

Ya she could. The reason why I thought maybe she's not is that my women friends say they don't do that, and would feel wrong if they did.

UK-SW wrote:I don't think it's cheating, no...it's probably quite common. You never know, she's maybe doing the same thing

Yes, it is possible, But who know what is true? Only she knew.

Is she ugly/fat/unappealing? Maybe shes not attractive enough for you.

harmonica wrote:When I'm with my gf I have to picture other women during sex. My girlfriend doesn't work for some reason. But I need other images of other women to get hard reach an orgasm. My friend told me I'm cheating and that maybe I should break up with her cause it's not fair. My mom told me the same thing, and please don't ask me how I got on the conversation with my mom. So am I cheating, really? I want to keep her to see where it goes and I'm following my heart I think.

Too many things backwards about this post.

Eric_Lee wrote:Is she ugly/fat/unappealing? Maybe shes not attractive enough for you.

Well she's not as much my type. But no girl I've been with is. There were a few close ones I didn't have to picture, but all they wanted was flings. It's hard to attract the more attractive type. But I got a great girl and I don't wanna throw it away, just because I'm more sexually attracted to a hard to get type.

I wouldn't say your cheating on her by doing that, but like a couple of other people have mentioned, if she knew that you have to picture other women during in sex I think it would be v. upsetting 4 her, would really destroy her self esteem, its up to you what you do about it, but i don't think its fair to keep stringing her along, ..

Eventually you'll find another woman who you are attracted to and then you can dump her. Until then, just enjoy the sex and stop overanalyzing so much.