Am I psychologically cheating on my girfriend by doing this?

Well i donot think that it is any kind of cheating this is very normal
so you don't need to tell her about this.

Honestly, this is a tough one then. I don't think any of the posts here will give you a clear-cut solution. Talking with her will get things in the open but to what point. The problem will still be there; it's still going to happen when you're having sex with her.

There are definitely other ways of managing your sexual impulses so that it doesn't involve the image of other women. Though, it's up to you to know how you might go about it. It sounds like you're still attracted to your girlfriend so logically, I would say is to try new sexual approaches with her. I'm sure you know that sex isn't a static process. I recall that you like your girlfriends to be aggressive and somewhat rough during sex and it helps with you maintaining your drive.

Are you getting this from her? If so, perhaps it's because you're frequently having sex with her a lot that the intensity wears off?

Hope this helps.

How sad.
Man, let her go. She deserves to find someone who loves her just as she is. She deserves to be with someone who wants her just for who she is.. On all levels.. I think that by staying with her, you are acting incredibly selfish. This girl deserves better.

And maybe you deserve to go searching for that unattainable hot chick. Who knows, you may find a woman you think is extremely attractive that you don't have to have make-believe sex with in order to be satisfied..

No, I don't think your cheating of your GF. We, as humans, and males especially tend to stick to someone for a few years and move on (repopulation genes and whatnot). the whole thinking of other women is a normal phenomenon we aren't really monogamous like ducks and wolves...
because if you were to be stuck with one person forever it(love/sex) will eventually die from bordom or being stuck in one cage for a long time... it needs air to breathe...
I'm not saying get someone new, if you want to go ahead. but the whole thinking... c'mon its a though... like me thinking about a good book or story that gets me in a good mood, i'm not betraying my other books.
try thinking of her as a goddess before sex? worship her and revere her before having sex idk here... I'm tired...

zoe wrote:How sad.
Man, let her go. She deserves to find someone who loves her just as she is. She deserves to be with someone who wants her just for who she is.. On all levels.. I think that by staying with her, you are acting incredibly selfish. This girl deserves better.

And maybe you deserve to go searching for that unattainable hot chick. Who knows, you may find a woman you think is extremely attractive that you don't have to have make-believe sex with in order to be satisfied..

Well I don't want an unattainable hot chick. I want to lower my standards. But recently I haven't needed to picture other women as often so maybe the urge is wearing off. But now I don't know what to think cause you think this, yet other people think it's normal. I thought that by giving her a shot though, I was not being selfish, and being the bigger man cause I am not letting a special girl go, just cause I'm stuck up on hot unattainable ones.

Evidently, you're not attracted to her. If this relationship isnt worth saving then you SHOULD break up with her before someone gets hurt. But if it is, there are some things you can try... Maybe YOU should pick out some sexy lingerie or outfits YOU'D like to see her in. Have her make herself up and wear something super-sexy to bed. Try having sex in odd places. Maybe try some role-play. Don't know what you're into. But as for me, I'd have her put on a strip show. I'd bring about 100 ones, watch her perform and "make it rain". lol. Hope this helps.

Well I think i mainly need her to be a lot more aggressive and not passive like she is. And one thing that would really help is that I'm usually sexually attracted to women who don't mind being with other women. So she doesn't want to. But I don't want to break up cause of that, seems kinda shallow. But it's what I'm sexually attracted to.

harmonica wrote:Well I think i mainly need her to be a lot more aggressive and not passive like she is. And one thing that would really help is that I'm usually sexually attracted to women who don't mind being with other women. So she doesn't want to. But I don't want to break up cause of that, seems kinda shallow. But it's what I'm sexually attracted to.

Pfft. Haha. Well now that we know what you're attracted to (nasty ho's), I think the reason you can't get it up is pretty obvious, no?

This is why alcohol was invented, my friend

Alcohol makes me more relaxed and mellow and therefor not feeling like sex. Alcohol just makes me not care if I get sex or not, so it doesn't help.

There's no such thing as 'psychological cheating'. What goes on in your mind is your business.

Ignore these people telling you to dump her and that you're being selfish.