by skykat » Wed Sep 16, 2009 9:02 pm
I just got married in June this year. And ever since I got married (which seemed like the right thing to do at the time), I have been feeling trapped. I have been looking for reasons to break up, and get divorced. I have even looked for my own place to live. I have borderline personality disorder, and I think that might be a cause of how I am feeling. I just feel trapped, no future. I feel like I would rather be friends with my husband, than be married to him. He doesn't understand my disability. He is not very supportive either. I keep thinking "Why did I marry him?". It's what I have always wanted, to get married and have kids, but now that I am there, I don't want it. I don't want to seperate from him, or tell him I want a divorce, and regret it later. I feel completely back and forth on the idea of being married, or divorced. I guess its that back and white thinking. Either all or nothing. I can't make up my mind. I could really use some advice. I don't want to do something, just to change my mind again. I don't want to go though it, and I don't want him to either. Does anyone else feel this way? Maybe not about marriage, but anything else? I could really you some advice.