Manager acting odd

I don't know if of the managers I report to is acting odd or just a part of confidence and self control.

One of the higher up managers I work for, actually looks younger then me, (I'm 32 and male) he looks about 30.

One of the higher up managers I worked for before used to call me sunshine and one of the female managers thought that was funny.
This one says that to but also winks at me, but it doesn't seem sexual. He also once came up and said "how's it goin' handsome?" Which I found a little odd. Thats all though, nothing further. He does seem a very confident, successful business person and I just wonder if this is just a way of him saying to people 'I am confident and in control' and I took it in the wrong context cause I was a bit surprised by it.

Hi,

He's the type that seems to be everyehere at the same time, right?; and he is just generally very active? I knew a guy once who was hyperactive and would call me and other people 'pet' names like that, and he would also wink. I think that this type of person just has an 'engine' inside them that is in hyperdrive, and they have to constantly keep moving and just doing things to satiate this internal 'engine'. try to observe how he reacts to other people too. Others might not be as receptive to him as you are, and he might not behave in the same way around them. I know that you're a quiet person though, and therefore it makes sense that he would feel that he can behave in whatever way he wants around you (or, to phrase it better, he can be himself around you without any fear that you'll 'bark' back at him).

Kevn

I supervise people and I act odd a LOT. I have jokingly refered to workers as slaves at times. But I'm anything but confident. I just do it because I have to joke around or be miserable. If I offend anyone it's alright for them to just say it makes them uncomfortable. I think that's only happened once. Wait - twice. I will probably think of more the longer I dwell on it.

Does he act like this to everyone?

not sure, I've only talked to him a few times, that I can remember. Quite a few managers call me sunshine now. I think its caught on lol. Does it mean I'm cheerful or something?

Cheerful? - I don't think so, but please don't ttake that as an insult. For the record, it doesn't imply that you are dull either. What it means is that this guy sees you as someone approachable. You're a quiet person, right? Quiet people like you and I generally get the attention of people like him, because he can say all he wants to and we just won't really talk back. The fact that we dont' talk much also means that people don't get to know our bad points, and therefore they see us as gentle and caring.

yeah a couple others are calling me Sunshine to.
Now that the the vistitors are gone everything has gone back to normal and everybody is acting like everybody else. Which isn't bad, there all generally nice.


Chucky, my ex found her cat, mentioned in other post, and now her stress levels are probably going down again. I'm wondering what my next move should be.

I think you said earlier, something like wait and see what happens and don't have expectations. She was quite flirty a week ago, I don't know if I should allow too much time to pass to wait and talk to her. But then she just move days ago, been threw the all the stress at her last apartment, (noisy neighbors). Should I take her to dinner or something?

Hi,

I don't completely recall the other thread too well, but I remember the general jist of it. It's amazing the effect that a pet can have on us though, and I can understand why her levels of stress are decreasing. I don't see why you're equating this with wondering what your next move should be though... ...? Are you implying that because she's destressing she will soon want to speak to you again? Just wait a while more... ...and then wait dome more after that. If you must - however - then send her a quick message (email) and say that you're glad she has her cat back again, and that you know how great pets can be (or something along those lines). Keep it very short/brief, and don't go off on a tangent.

Kevin

Were on good talking terms and all. WHat I meant was I wanted to find out how she felt, really. With how flirtateous she was about 2 weeks ago before the big move.

I just didn't want to bring it all up to her during a big move and her cat missing. But now that those are behind her, I had just been wondering how to bring it up to her and go forward.

Do as I said: Send her a brief message. The moment you go off on a tangent though, is the moment that you lose her respect in you. Just say that you're glad things are getting back to normal for her.

Kevin

Alright, I'll do that. I know what your sayin is for the best.

Earlier I sent her a message asking if she was off still on Tuesdays. Cause I was going to ask her to hang out.
Maybe I shouldn't have. Just that I helped her move Monday, and we hooked up Tuesday and Wednesday to help clean up her old place and look for her cat and watch tv.

So I went over on Thursday, right before she found the cat, too keep looking, but she already found her. So I asked if she still wanted me to come over and she was casual. If you want to, kind of attitude.

I'm just not sure about her. Touching and trying to kiss me just two weeks ago and wondering if it meant something.

Maybe I should just back up and take a step back. Play it cool and do other things for a while.