I hate how my family tell me in a nasty way to get over the

Im sorry Im just so unloved

I think flower avatar person is correct.

I want you to go back to every post you've ever written, and try seeing it from the perspective as if you are someone else. What do they look like to you?

You seem very self centric. Its more than common in today's society, where we have examples to live by, all over television and pop culture. Its sad really. a lot of people, like you, suffering emotionally due to what is built up perceptions and not reality.

Here is the reality. Everyone has something #######5 happen to them in life. More often then not, we have done something wrong to deserve it, such as using someone, or calling someone names or saying they are a bad person/bad people, etc. Sometimes, we don't deserve it at all.

However, have you ever heard of karma, or the new testament of the bible? The reason to believe in these things is not because we'll get some almighty wrath if we don't follow it, but because by believing in such things, we mentally psych ourselves into doing better in daily life. All life is really perception for every individual, and what you perceive right now is a constant stream of uncaring with a fixation on past events that were painful to you.

the only way to stop going through negative thoughts and bringing yourself down, is to own those thoughts and take responsibility for them. You may be of the type to feel like this is personally attacking, but if you want to feel better and more positive in life, believe me now that its not.

Those people around you do love you, but they have gotten stuck in their perceptual rut towards you, the way you are to them and to your past. If they didn't, they wouldn't talk to you at all. Have you considered from their angle what it is like to hear someone who only speaks negative things whenever they are around? And yet they still remain there for you. I think that says a lot.

Going back to the karma thing, it says that its past actions in previous lives that cause us problems and pain now, and that get us in trouble or bad situations. Now, I don't really care whether its true or not, but I can see the value in thinking this way. The value is that a person doesn't get set back by bad things in the past, and continues to strive for self betterment, believing (whether rightly or wrongly), that they need to be better people to make up for their past lives. Its not really about the past lives. its about a mental trick to help someone truly be a better person, for their own sake at the very least, by having a resolve to keep working for it. Its much the same way in believing about forgiveness of others and being good that the new testament of the christian bible. Whether its reality or just a story, believing it and following it can make a person happier.

Can you agree that true happiness only comes from within? We know that physical advancements and pleasures such as possessions, money, and sex and so on are temporary happiness, and they can't last. We see all the time, people who have gone so far into these physical things that they lose themselves, so how can we see them as really positive things? They are only positive used properly and judiciously, not as much as a person can get. The problem is, getting to a place of real happiness isn't getting it first and then having it around all the time. The work to getting there is changing your own thoughts and behavior, then happiness gradually comes around. Its hard for a "now" centric generation, because there will be many stumbles.

What you can do for yourself is this. Like flower avatar person said, be more positive. But I think we can go farther than that. When a negative thought comes into your mind, weigh it out. consider the benefits of that thought compared to its negatives. You should gradually see that even logically, dwelling on negative thoughts causes reactions in your body and emotions, and you feel worse, thus leading to more negative thoughts. Try to remain aware of your emotions, and your actions, to see how negative they are and in what situations. You should be able to see that you are actually behaving in negative patterns all the time. And then you can break those patterns by letting go of them, bad thoughts and all. Its not a race. You'll just have to remain mindful of this, and day by day, eventually it'll not be so bad, then eventually it'll be neutral, and eventually it'll be easy and feel good.

and remember, we become lovable, for other's words and affection, by making ourselves into lovable beings. people may try to take advantage of you if you start to become like that. keep your wits about you.

I've been told by alot of people to think possitivly.

thruwithchix wrote:I think flower avatar person is correct.

Flower avatar person???? That cracks me up! LOL

but I will always feel sorry for the little girl next door and I hate how my mum keeps saying that I don't need to because I do because her brother is so nasty

I dress differently then them and my personality is totally different

And they hate me

It's so strange the fact I wasen't adopted

There's nothing wrong with being different.... you are who you are.

I doubt that hate you nightmare, hate is a very strong word.

they wish I had never been born

I doubt that, maybe they want to see you improve with your attitude towards things etc... prove them you can, seek treatment from a therapist... show them you can do things to better yourself.

I seen a therapist and it diden't help

my brother and sister have always took the piss and now my sister-in-law joins in.
They were all going on at me yesturday because I don't eat vedtables