advice?? please?

I am 18 years old and im in a relationship with the most wonderful guy in the world.
I have no idea in the world how or why he could ever love someone like me but he does.
He is always so understanding of me and my problems, (i have suspicions that i have some form of depression) but whenever i think of something i can do for him, i feel that i fall short of what he truely deserves.
I mean heres this absolutely gorgeous, understanding, sensitive, funny guy.... and then theres me... the way i see myself is a bit of a spazticated public embarrassment to tell the gods honest.

I'm confused on what i can do to make him feel special and make him be happy in the relationship, because i dont want to lose him.

You don't sound as if you like yourself very much. You sound as if you have some very negative beliefs about yourself. This could be what is making you depressed, one of the common things that people who are depressed share is a very negative view of themselves and their circumstances.

If you want to be happy in your relationship, you first have to be happy with you. Your boyfriend will benefit from being in a relationship with a girl who likes herself.

If you think negative, you'll feel negative and you behave negatively.

I don't mean thinking that life is all rosie. But using a more realistic view of yourself and the world.

Start by telling yourself that you deserve to have a caring and supportive boyfriend. Communicating in relationships is important, so let him know how much you appreciate his support of you when your down.

The next thing to do is to get some sunshine and exercise into you. A short walk outside will raise the serotonin levels in your brain and these are feel good chemicals.

Don't compare yourself to other girls or women. It won't help and only makes you feel worse. We are all unique in our way and fashion mags computer enhance what models look like. It's not reality.

Here is a website that discusses teenage depression.

It might help
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depress ... nagers.htm

Here are some tips on improving self esteem.

http://ezinearticles.com/?Activities-fo ... id=1105866

Have you told him about how much you appreciate all that he does for you? Have you asked him if he felt like he's doing too much for you and you're not doing enough for him? Or if this bothers him? Or if there's anything else you can do for him?

Chances are, because of your depression that you're just making a bigger deal out of it than it is. I bet he isn't bothered by it at all, he might not even feel like it was that case. If he's stuck by you through your depression so far, I don't think he's as bothered by it as you think he is. My boyfriend has offered similar support to me during my depression.

All you need to do is just tell him how much you love him and that he's really great for you, just like anyone else would. I think that will make him plenty happy. It isn't as hard as you think, so there isn't much reason to worry. Especially if you both communicate well, you'll both know well in advance of any "snags" that come up so you can deal with them before they become actual problems.

elrora wrote:I am 18 years old and im in a relationship with the most wonderful guy in the world.
I have no idea in the world how or why he could ever love someone like me but he does.
He is always so understanding of me and my problems, (i have suspicions that i have some form of depression) but whenever i think of something i can do for him, i feel that i fall short of what he truely deserves.
I mean heres this absolutely gorgeous, understanding, sensitive, funny guy.... and then theres me... the way i see myself is a bit of a spazticated public embarrassment to tell the gods honest.

I'm confused on what i can do to make him feel special and make him be happy in the relationship, because i dont want to lose him.

Hi there,

Do everything with right spirit and right intentions. Don't look at your results, leave it to god. I meant do for him selflessly.

This is the best way to become special for everyone in the world according to me.[/b]