I can't stop thinking about Her

I made a post around 3 months ago and this one is somewhat different. I want to 'hook up' with this girl that I've known (and liked) for about 5 years. About two years ago we started talking less frequently, and now none at all. We have totally different groups of friends (her being in the intimidating 'popular group' and me being in my reserved shy grouP). She liked me in gr. 6 and 7 ( i should explain im in grade 11 now) and then we weren't in any of the same classes from 8-present. I see her in the halls, and I have her on MSN but i can't even bring myself to say "hi" to her, even though all my friends tell me to. She has a reputation as pretty much the pickiest girl in school and i'm not going to lie, i am not the most sought-after guy in school. But i know she liked me (her friends told me but i wasn't ready to date)

I don't know how to break the ice, and for some reason i have this strange feeling she hates me now or something. . . She goes to parties and stuff and i don't really cause im agaisnt drinking... i don't know what to do at all but i can't stop thinking about her. I don't think its lust cause when i think about her its not sex, though i find her incredibly beautiful... I don't know what to DO!!! If anyone has some advice or something please tell me..

well kudos for not drinking yukkk, patooey.

But you could start by helping her to quit too. and then be her friend, and then see where it goes from there cuz you don't want a girl that is turning out that way, anyway, right? B
eautiful or not.. Beautiful can be very ugly inside.

If she liked you once, there must have been a reason. And there must be a reason you like her as well. Tell you a secret: girls are just waiting for a guy to have the nerve to ask them out. I'm not even kidding. Me and my guy friend liked each other for six months (all our friends hounded us about why we weere not together) but NOTHING HAPPENED because he did not have enough guts to bring it up. Finally I had to kiss him.

She'll probably be thrilled if you spoke to her.

If she doesn't, well, I usually put more faith in the "shy, reserved" types than the popular types anyway, so it would be her loss, not yours.

Good luck, be brave. You only live once.

Dear SadPanda,
I'm glad to hear that you're in love. If you are certainly ready to show your care and respect towards someone I do have some advice that can help you break the ice. If this girl is too difficult to speak to at the current time, try speaking to some other girls who dont make you feel nervous. If you find difficulty with producing some form of discussion try asking questions such as: what's your favourite sport?, what's your favourite colour, sports team, country, music, tv show etc. By asking questions you can find interests of other people and elaborate more on your common interests, this can most definatly spark up a conversation and bring up your social confidence. All it takes is a little practice and in no time you should feel strong enough to talk to anyone. Now when the time comes for you to try earning your love's love you're going to want to be fully confident in yourself. Try speaking to her in person first, once she knows that you're somewhat interested in her start speaking briefly on the computer. (Try using some social techniques when speaking to her like: asking questions and complimenting her, **do no over compliment **) The longer you guys discuss the stronger your relationship will become and the better your chances of getting her will come. I hope this advice has helped

Be brave of your feelings to her, if you liked her then make a move. Speak it out your feelings to her. Talk to her, tell your secret that you liked her. Mostly of women are just waiting.

Good Luck! Be confident