I hate how my family yell at me about how it's time I did

stuff for myself

IM A GIRL AND THE YOUNGEST SO WHY DO I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THIS

You are giving mixed signals to us: In other threads, you indicate that you want to be independent, but here you are indicating that you would rather your parents look after all of your needs. Overall, this tells me that you don't even know what you [yourself] wants from life, and you sound confused.

oh I see, you are the youngest.
If you dont mind, can you tell me what age your close too.
I have only dealt with your posts mainly here.

It is ok to be confused. You are not alone in confustion.

Chucky and I and all the mods, just want to help, we just want
to know where to start?

Im 22

and in life I just want love, goth friends and a goth lover

Being goth hasn't proved successful for you thus far though. Perhaps you should 'branch-out' with regard to who you can talk to and accept into yiour life. You can always maintain your gothic nature internally, but perhaps it isn't too good right now to be expressing it openly.

Look, I'm all for people being who they want to be, but you've been on this website for a while now and it's apparent that you need to seriously change some things in your life. Whatever it takes to help you should be done.

Just out of curiosity, but why do these people have to be goth? I do not consider myself goth, but I don't think I'd ever have a problem with having a goth friend. I don't think I'd ever really look for friends based around those kinds of categories.

I agree with Chucky. It's time you start looking outside your inner circle and find more outside in the world. Go explore another city or goto a neighbouring country for a week. You will learn more about yourself by putting yourself in unfamiliar waters.

but why has been goth been succesful for these other people

Why don't I ever meet any goths?

Do you have a goth fetish or what?
Just wondering, cause if I remember correctly the other avoidants said something about "Romantic Idealized Love." i dont know, maybe your setting yourself up for failure by making assumptions about gothic people and their culture?

all the other gothic people have friends of there own sort