I'm a real idiot...

Well I've gone and done it once again, I thought that I might call my ex-wife and tell her the dog she and I got as a puppy 14 years ago is dying or dead (as the case was almost), but the dog is recovering and thus I did not make the call. I put my ex-wifes # in my cell phone thinking I would call, but did not. My current wife scrolling though my # list found my entry as I had it listed "L" and inquired. I lied and said it was someone locally who helps me with work etc... Because I knew that if I told the truth it would turn into a hugely dramatic scene that would flare up my hemoroids and cause me severe lack of sleep. So thinking that she had not viewed the number I changed it, that was Saturday night. Tonight she obviously had gone into my phone and looked at the number again and confronted me as to why I changed it. So what do I do? I lie again and say that "L" called me and I just listed the number in my phone so I would know that it was her calling again, she didn't believe me, none-the-less. So now I'm in the same predicament anyways and I haven't even talked to my ex wife. I feel extremely stressed and probably will not sleep in the bedroom tonight because of the icey chill in the room.

There is much, much more about this relationship that may be intriguing in to some, disgusting to others and downright entertaining to most. I will continue to post when I can.

BTW my wife is a Doctor of Psychology

1lameduck wrote:There is much, much more about this relationship that may be intriguing in to some, disgusting to others and downright entertaining to most. I will continue to post when I can.

BTW my wife is a Doctor of Psychology

I seriously can't wait to hear more.

BTW, why didn't you just be honest with your wife about the number? It's your ex-wife, and there could always be a reason why you would need to speak with her considering she was once a part of your life. I'm sure the wife would have understood. Well, hopefully..

I was married previously for 10 years, I helped raise her two children, when I met her the children were 7&8. The 7 year old a boy and the 8 year old an Autistic girl. Both children had purportedly been molested by the materal father. Anyways I was 23 when I married that woman, she was 27. It was a good relationship for the better part of 8 years until I started feeling smothered and resentful of having to work all the time. Well one thing led to another and by the 9th year she was popping pills and our life together was spiraling out of control. At the end she was addicted to Oxycontin and I was pretending to be gay so that she would leave. Finally I just had enough and kicked her out. She moved back in with her parents whom bought her her own place so she and the kids would have a place to call home. I felt and still feel very guilty about that whole situation, I have not spoken with my ex or the kids except for an isolated e-mail once in a great while. It's been 6 years since that divorce.

The problem is that I met my current wife at the office of an employer of my ex-wife when she was working. So my current wife has a guilty conscience over the fact that she was once friends with my ex-wife. I cannot speak of, talk about, insinuate or otherwise make mention of any contact I have had with any person from the previous relationship, otherwise she gets angry and takes the purported indescretion and runs with it. It becomes a trust issue and that she can't trust me, and that she just can't live with someone like that. Furthermore I moved to where my ex-wife resides well before I met her. I have family ties to that area and I have buried reletives there as well. My current wife will not even entertain the idea of visiting there so I can at least visit my old stomping ground, remember my good times with family members, visit their graves etc... So that in itself is a very difficult issue for me to absorb and it's because my ex-wife and family reside there and my current wife doesn't want to even associate herself with anything about that community because of it. So I can't even talk about the good times I had there without feeling like I am causing her emotional torment.

She also comes from a long term relationship prior to me with 4 young children. She has also terminated all contact with those children as well, certainly not by my request. Her ex, the childrens father was killed in a motorcycle crash recently so she doesn't have to worry about him. He was never a concern of mine and I attempted to convince my wife that she needs to keep in contact with the kids but she refused and expected the same from me, so I have complied against my wishes to keep this relationship under control.

Needless to say I cannot have any contact with any one from my first marriage as it causes such an enormous emotional strain on my current wife and thus myself because I have to listen to a barrage of insults and contemptuous statements that are aimed at making me feel as insignificant as a speck of cockroach poop.