Close encounter: Guilt

I'm a 50 y/o male in a long term relationship with a 55 y/o woman. We have known each other 10 years, and have been living together for 3.

I got into a bad situation a couple nights ago that almost led to infidelity. It didn't happen, but it came so close that I'm now having some awful guilt.

To make a long story short, I exchanged smiles with a stranger at a local store, and believing that she was interested, I attempted to follow it up with a meeting. It's a very long story, and we didn't actually speak words, but suffice it to say that I was feeling very willing to strike up a conversation with her.

Like I said, nothing happened, we didn't speak or meet, but this has left me very anxious and stressed to the point that I'm beginning to doubt my own fidelity and desire to remain with a woman I truly believe I love.

I can go on, if needed, but will stop here. I hope someone has some advice.

I'm diagnosed with OCD, and am on medication. I'm very anal, I know, but I can't stop thinking about this situation.

Thanks for your time.

Terry

Hi, terry58! This probably happens to everyone. You just thought that another lady was attractive and it's normal to sort of think about talking to her. I don't think you have anything to worry about and you wouldn't cheat on the woman you love.
The fact that it worries you so much probably proves that you care about her a lot and feel loyal to her.

thanks jasmin. i appreciate your comments, and believe you me, I want to think that you're right.

I just bothers me to no end that I would go so far as I did. I want to think that it was only a matter of curiosity, and that even though I opened the gate for a rendezvous, in the end, I would have said no to anything more.

Just out of curiosity, are you a female?

Yah, I am a woman. Honestly, I think that fantasising about having an affair is pretty different than actually deciding to have one.

hey Terry
I can understand ur problem..
This case happens very rare.But i think u should tell that woman whom u love.You should express ur feelings for her which is in ur heart..Dont stay in stress and be anxious..Just come out from this.
If u believe that u love her selfless then carry on it.Why r u stopping.

You should thankful to ur god that u were in touch of her for 10 years.
Belief is that thing u never give up..

Thnks

Hi terry58.

You will always be attracted to other women, and even fantasize about them. Sometimes you may get tempted, but it is up to you to resist the urges. That is the human condition.