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boyfriend left and im a mess....

Postby Kristi1971 » Sat Aug 09, 2008 5:42 pm

:( I posted last night but I cant find my post so I am posting again. Hi I am new here. I suffer from severe depression, anxiety, PTSD, manic episodes and who knows what else. My boyfriend of 3 years also suffers from the above plus has schizophranic episodes. We do very well together because we understand eachother but it can be hard during episodes. To make matters worse I am pregnant and off my meds. My boyfriend got stressed out and left Tuesday. He has done this 2-3 times since weve been together and was gone for months each time. I dont know where he is or if he is coming back, I never do, and I am a mess. I am really depressed, not suicidal, and my mind wont stop racing. Im not sleeping good, when I do finally fall asleep, and I have no appetite. I want to know if he is coming back or not but have to wait for him to contact me, if he is going to. He is blaming me for his stress. I know I am not to blame but it is still hard. I have no family or friends to talk to, I am pregnant, alone, and off all meds. I see my therapist next week but I needed to talk now. Every day that passes gets harder. I just needed to talk to people who understand my situation. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you for listening.
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Postby Chucky » Sat Aug 09, 2008 6:50 pm

Hey Kristi,

It's hard and sad to know that you are there suffering because of this, and it makes me angry that your partner has been very cruel to you (and continues to be). Do you really have to put up with his behaviour though? I know that you have been with him for three years but, c'mon, he's treating you as if you were a piece of dirt.

I don't think that two people who have mental problems should get together because the results - if a break-up occur - can be absolutely devastating for all involved. There might be great understanding between the two but, let's face it, they are always teetering on the edge.

My advice, whether you want to take it or not, is to not wait around for him anymore. No person in this world deserves the treatment that he is giving to you. So, move-on from this and try to embrace different things in your life, maybe even different partners. If you don't put your foot down now, he will always treat you like a piece of dirt. You have to stand up for yourself.

Take care,
Kevin
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Re: boyfriend left and im a mess....

Postby Ravine » Sat Oct 18, 2008 7:30 am

hiii

I can understand ur problem and will try to give u suitable and good advice for u..
First if u love ur boyfriend then why r u so stressed..Ok.. U may be concerned with him because of his health..
Serious thing is that he is blaming on u and u cant handle ur situation at ur own,, i see. Let me tell may be he need ur love more..Then give him. Dont be alone , try to be in touch of ur neighbour or ur family..

Offcourse its a good decision to go with a psychotherapist.. May be u need some rest..

Thnks
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