I’m in a pickle.

I have been friends with this woman (who shall remain nameless) since we were teenagers. For the longest time we just had a friendly relationship. However, a few months ago, I started looking at this friend in a different light. I wanted to be more than friends with her. There was a problem, though – she was already with someone.

I kept my feelings to myself. The last thing I wanted to do was damage our friendship. So, whenever I saw them kissing, cuddling, whatever serious couples do, I simply smiled and thought to myself, “If she’s happy, I’m happy.”

During our friendship, I considered her to be a pretty conservative girl. She never wore anything too revealing, she never engaged in long, sloppy public displays of affection. I actually respected her. But that changed when I found out she and her boyfriend…performed…on a webcam. The moment I caught wind of this, I cut off all contact with her.

That happened about one month ago. We’ve encountered each other once since: she noticed me and tried to strike up a conversation, but I lowered my head and left the scene as quickly as possible. I couldn’t stand to look at her after what she did.

I must tell you now that I am a conservative fellow. I believe sex is something that should be between two people in the privacy of their bedroom. To whore yourself on the Internet for tons of people to watch…it’s disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.

My question to you: did I go too far? Consider my previous assumptions of her, my sudden infatuation with her, and my own personal beliefs before you answer. And please be honest.

We get to choose who is in our lives. If this is a serious issue for you and you feel you cannot be friends with her then you've done the right thing.

But, remember, not everyone has the same views as you. She probably wouldn't have done this if she didn't feel okay about her decision. Don't attack, insult or bother her about it. Just stop contacting her. If she keeps reaching out, tell her you are concerned but don't go too far and tell her what she did was wrong. If it was wrong to her, she wouldn't have done it.

If a person actions are more important than the person, yes, stay away.

I would never hang around an animal abuser.