How Long Should I Let This Continue?

My fiance and I dated for 3 years before he popped the question, and we've been engaged now for 6 months. We were just having the typical issues that would cause an argument every now and then, but we've been arguing more frequent recently. I'm 19, and he's 18. I've had a job for over 8 months, and he hasn't had any experience in the job industry. I keep trying to motivate him, and he'll say repeatedly how he wants a job, but he doesn't show as much effort and I feel he should to find one. I'm in the middle of trying to transition to another job, because I can't stand the one I'm at. When I complain about it though, he makes me feel bad. Saying at least I have a job, and he can't get one. He's very negative, saying he'll never have a job, and me complaining, makes him feel like I'm better than him. I've offered to help him in any way I can, help him with a resume, and see what job opportunities are out there. I'm just afraid that if he doesn't find something soon, he's still going to be this negative, and I worry he may give up completely. I don't know how well I can handle this for who knows how long it will last. I love him with all my heart, but making me feel bad for having a job, and not knowing what to do to help is messing me up. I don't know what to do. I'm worried I won't be able to take it and will have to end the relationship. We dont' even have our own place yet, because of lack of funds. What do I do?

His life and your life aren't the same thing.

You set your goals, you begin to fulfill your goals, and if he does same - you two will remain together.

If he doesn't, you'll move past him into the next phase of your life without regret or remorse for leaving him behind.

I agree, do nothing, keep motivating him in a positive manner, however don't force it on him. It's his life, you may be sharing a life together but he will only act on his own accord. Not yours. Keep doing your life as you do, do the best you can't if you move forward, then move forward, put your priorities above him. If he doesn't want to contribute to the relationship finatially and responsibly then don't make him, i'm sure he is well aware of the consiquences that it will cause. I'm sure if he is the man for you and loves you he will catch on.

can you suggest he studies?

Thanks