Why bother

I can't do relationships! I can't maintaid friendships because as soon as I trust them somehow I sabotage it by feelings of DISTRUST!! It's like just when I count on a "friend" then they abandon me or show NO emotions...I just can't take it why the HELL are people so freaking cold and calous?? WHY? Is there any friendship with having?
Wednesday

Hi, Wednesday! People can be cold and mean sometimes. You can find a friend to trust and when you see that they don't betray you, you will feel better. You don't need a lot of friends or a relationship right now. Maybe you can just give yourself a chance to feel angry or sad and grieve for the relationships you lost.

You are looking in the wrong places! With my experience I feel it is necessary to have some type of wall when meeting a new friend or engaging in a new relationship. It is not necessarily bad to not trust people. if over time it becomes an issue when you have finally found someone, that is when you should stop and readjust your attitude with trust. Often I find great relationships and friendships come when I am least expecting it. I am sorry about your bad experiences but it only makes you stronger in the long run. The experience gives you better judgment of character to help you pick and choose who you want to be in your life, and who you should trust

I am not looking in the WRONG place for me!! I am very choosy actually and trust issues are very serious to me!! I choose to trust this person as she had some related issues in her family that made me think she would be understanding....BUT WRONG!!! I am sorry if I said anything that would lead you to belive that I was juevinille or jumped to a first friend relationship for security reasons..I was just highly disappointed...Sorry,
Wednesday

Hey, Wednesday. It's a shame when friends act this way. I've done some stupid things too that I wish I could take back and I wish I could have been a better friend. I've also been hurt by people who I thought were my friends. You can't go back, but you can look forward to the future. I have good friends now, even if it's not "in real life". I will happen for you too.

Wednesday wrote:I can't do relationships! I can't maintaid friendships because as soon as I trust them somehow I sabotage it by feelings of DISTRUST!! It's like just when I count on a "friend" then they abandon me or show NO emotions...I just can't take it why the HELL are people so freaking cold and calous?? WHY? Is there any friendship with having?
Wednesday

im prolly not the best person to answer this question since i haven't had a friend since i was like 6 but my opinion is that if every relationship you've been in has failed then maybe its fair to look at the constant in the equation. maybe its you. i don't know the details about your situation so i can't say. but even if the so called friend is completely in the wrong sometimes its better to look at it from their perspective and maybe even forgive them if you can understand. but thats a decision that you have to make. you have to decide how great the costs are to you. the bottom line is that people aren't perfect so every investment you make in a relationship comes with a trade off. maybe you shouldn't be investing as much as you do in the friendships until after the person has consistently proven themselves to you as trustworthy. so even if they make a mistake you have to decide if the goods match up with the bads.