Another (stupid) problem...

I know a lot of guys are going to call me crazy, but I can't change the way I feel. My gf wants to give me a BJ, and I really don't want her to...

Like I said. I'm crazy. It's just to me, 'that' seems really sick. It could be from some of the stuff I've looked at, considering my other problem (which I've already gotten help for in the thread titled "I need to stop looking at porn" three guesses what the problem was.)

I like 'playing with' her just fine (she likes it too ), but she said she wants to 'return the favor.' She already knew I didn't like that, (we've done it before, and at first I liked it, but over time I got to how I feel now and we haven't done 'that' for a while. Now she says she really wants to (she says she likes it better then when I 'play with' her), and I want to make her happy, but I feel strongly about it too, and I know she doesn't want to upset me.

It's a Catch-22. Either I let her, feel bad for myself, then she feels bad for doing it and we both are upset; or I don't let her, she gets sad, and I feel bad for not letting her. Either way we both are upset/sad/depressed/etc.

I've been waiting for around two months for us to get together again, couldn't wait for us to finally get some alone time, and now I don't want it to come because of this. I know it shouldn't be this big of a deal, but we both feel strongly about it...

If anyone could help, it would be great. Thanks in advance...

BTW: for those who didn't read the other thread, I'm 17 and we both don't believe in premarital sex. So, not we haven't gone all the way.

Hey, nightshade! I guess you can just try to convince her that this is very important to you and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell her that if she felt this way about something, you wouldn't insist and that you'd try to understand. You can't do accept like this just becouse it would make her sad if you didn't. I don't think that would be fair.