More girl probs (lets be friends sort of)

hey. ive pretty much got no idea at the momment so id appreciate it if you could read my experience and tell me what you think.
My girl has liked me for a month or so now and has been constantly flirting with me. after previous experienced i learnt that personality is the main part so instead of using her i decided to actually get to know her. i loved he personality and began to like her aswel. after telling her this she told me how complicated it was with her and another guy who doesnt treat her good. i said well whatever i just dont want to be messed around with anymore.
so about a week later she told me she wanted to be with me but to wait a little while
about 5 days later she told my friend she would go out with me now if i asked.
so i waited for 2 days until nye and asked her and she said yes.
the relationship had been weird lately because i feel the flow was ruined by me having to wait a while to ask her out. so the next thing i said was i thought you were starting to not like me. she said that wasnt true though.
she spent the whole night with me ALL OVER ME.
like in the spa she was in her underwear siting on my lap, legs spread, facing me. constantly kissing me. even placing my hand inbetween her legs at one stage. but i never did anything more than kissing. (alcohol was involved i should let you know). i didnt go past kissing for the pure fact that i respected her and didnt want to ruin our relationship with her regretting the actions taken the night before. this is something she said she wanted respect, loyalty, trust all that stuff.
anyways the next day the group stayed together again (we all stayed at her house) and everything seemed fine.
then the next day i went on msn messenger and she pretends to type: i dont know, i dont think i like him anymore. by accident. then i decided to call her and i couldnt get anything out of her.... she denied it was the other guy. i got sick of the conversationg going no where so i just asked so what do you want to do then. she said nothing. meaning she didnt want to go out anymore. i should mention i was going to make sure she still wanted to even though she wasnt drunk at the time i asked her so dont get me wrong.
so yeah currently i am ignoring her but yesterday she sent me a message saying she was sorry how things turned out and she hopes we can be friends coz im really nice.
can somebody give me help.... i dont know whether to be angry at her, accept the situation and try to move on although i cant see myself with any of the other girls, or try to resurect the relationship by letting her know how strongly i feel about her and a whole lotta sweet stuff?
i cant ignore her forever (AND DONT WANT TO)as im only 16 and our groups are pretty good friends. at the momment im thinking of having a really deep discusion with her next time and seeing how it goes. id love to get her back. but yeah let me know what u think.

If you're angry with her, you'd better start showing it to her before she seriously thinks that she can get away with doing anything to you. I was with a girl like her many years ago and I was the one that was always trailing her. I simply never knew where she was most of the time and if I asked her she'd make up a pathetic excuse. As it turned out, she was dating another guy alongside me.

I never got angry with her and I let myself become depressed over this. This is why I suggest to you to stand your ground and show your anger. If you have the feeling that she's up to something, then most likely she is.

Kevin.

She seems very confusing and I believe this is why you are having trouble figuring out the situation. As most girls your age seem immature with relationships I am not surprised. You did a GREAT job by not taking it further in the spa. NOW YOU KNOW that you are able to like a girl for HER and you can respect her body and mind. Most women would appreciate that. Perhaps her intentions were to just hook up? When people are drunk the truth starts to come out. She seems like she was playing games by accidently typing that in MSN. As you had not dated for too long, don't think it is the end of the world. There are SO many girls out there. She is not the only one! You will be having a LOT of experience with girls and relationships from here on out. In my straight forward opinion, she doesn't seem worth the time. If you feel a talk with her would be necessary and disagree with me then go for it. If not, mind your biz and go out and meet some girls and hang out with friends. We only live once