ignorance

ok im not sure if this is where i post but here goes. My girlfriend and me just had a fight, we've only just meet, i'd say about 2 weeks.. today i found out she takes "pills" .. she told me what she has and i didnt understand it.. and because i said that she called me Ignorant .. i felt so insulted, she then told me now was not the tiem to tlak .. i understood that because she was at work .. now how can she call me ignorant when i dont understand her problem? , its not like i cant learn, i cant try to understand .. im so very confused and hurt right now ... but cant tell her a thing

can someone help me please?

don,

She is obviously upset and seems to think that your lack of knowledge about her condition, whatever it is, indicates a lack of intelligence, or perhaps caring,, on your part. Some people with mental disorders can be overly sensitive about their disorders or assume that everyone "knows" what their problem is or don't care enough to know. Try not to take it too personally at this point.

Hopefully, once she calms down, she will be more reasonable.

You haven't indicated what her problem is, but I suggest that you create an atmosphere that is conducive to conversation and talk to her. A written invitation to this event, perhaps even accompanied by a small token of your affection, might even by a good idea so that she knows that you are interested in her problems and willing to learn about it.

When the conversation takes place, let her tell you what she feels comfortable but don't push her past that level. After your discussion, get online and find out what you can about her condition and educate yourself as fully as possible. Remember, however, that not all people manifest the same situation. And don't try to change her perception of her condition based on what you learn. Empathize with her and support her with and try to accept her condition as a part of her, just as her eye color, and not a "definition" of her.

Hopefully this will help you develop an open dialogue with her which is necessary for a relationship to thrive.

Good luck,

N.

since i last talked to her, she has opend up to me more, i let her know that i may not understand, but i am willing to be apart of what she is going though. when i do go online and do some reasearch, im not sure what to believe and what to pass off as fiction. There are many many websites out there for what im lookign for none are really helpful. trying to understand more and more is confusing me with every page i read

Hi, confused-don. It's ok not to understand something. You are doing something nice for your grilfriend by trying to lear more about what she is going through. Tell her that you not knowing something does not mean that you don't care, and if she could explain more, it would be helpful. I wish you luck.