My Head hurts so much its painfull

I am a man in my mid 40's who for some reason seems to have developed an unhealthy interest in a woman in her mid 20's.

I have known her for over 3 years but one day recently I woke up to the realisation that I have very strong feeling for her, far more than I should.

We have talked on this and she has made her views plain "it aint going to happen".....;(

We continue to work well together and its as if nothing has happend, she is carrying on as if nothing has happended. I dont know if this is a good or a bad thing.

I am having trouble keeping my mind set on work and I find myself thinking about her most of the time.

I would very much welcome some voice out there to help.

kiteman wrote:I am a man in my mid 40's who for some reason seems to have developed an unhealthy interest in a woman in her mid 20's.

I have known her for over 3 years but one day recently I woke up to the realisation that I have very strong feeling for her, far more than I should.

We have talked on this and she has made her views plain "it aint going to happen".....;(

We continue to work well together and its as if nothing has happend, she is carrying on as if nothing has happended. I dont know if this is a good or a bad thing.

I am having trouble keeping my mind set on work and I find myself thinking about her most of the time.

I would very much welcome some voice out there to help.

Hi,kiteman,
It being a work situation kinda makes it sticky.
She made it clear, and said NO. She is not going to bring it up
again, she is trying to do her job.
If she is willing to continue to work with you and act like nothing happened, you should try and do the same.
You might be able to get a different position if you have issues working with her.
It could be called sexual harassment. I am sure you are not that pushy.

Peace to you.
red

Kiteman,

I am a man in my mid 40's who for some reason seems to have developed an unhealthy interest in a woman in her mid 20's.

You realize on one level that this is not a good situation, however, sometimes the most enticing relationship is the one we can't have. This may be the cause of what you are experiencing.

I agree with STR, keep your distance on all levels and explore other options.

Best,

N.

nymenche wrote:Kiteman,

I am a man in my mid 40's who for some reason seems to have developed an unhealthy interest in a woman in her mid 20's.

You realize on one level that this is not a good situation, however, sometimes the most enticing relationship is the one we can't have. This may be the cause of what you are experiencing.

I agree with STR, keep your distance on all levels and explore other options.

Best,

N.

Kind word which I am grateful for...

I will try to put out the fire somehow. She deserves to be treated with respect and not feel I am a "risk" to her..

I think, not at all wanting to be unkind to her, that the lady in question is perhaps behaving as if nothing has happened because her youth has not yet equipped her with a ability to understand deep complex nature of human emotion. probably a good thing as I very much value our working realtionship and I am very glad that we appear at least on the surface to be business as usual.

we continue to work well and on a professioanl level at work we 'make each other look good' as they say.

However...

It leaves me with the raging fire in my head which simply wont go away. I would welcome some advice on how I can put out the fire and get my life back. The one were I'm not obsesed with her as I am at the moment.