about to leave the one i love most

Well, where do i start...i am so confused...i have a boyfriend whom i've been with for almost 4 years and i am at a stand still with him...We have been thru hell and back but i love him wil all my heart...We are total oppisites and I am kindof thinking that i fell in love with a SOCIOPATH...I don't kno what 2 do...HOw can i leave some1 i love?...I am really confused...right now we are separated...we use to live together but i couln't take it anymore..i needed a break...now that we are apart i can see how differnet we are...I am in the mist of moving forward with my life and he is happy where he is (nowhere)...Its hard...i see the potential in him that he doesn't c in hiself...i guess u really can't help thise that don't wanna help themselves...it's just a srtuggle everyday knowing that i could never be with the person i want to spend the rest of my life with...but how do i part?...javascript:emoticon(':cry:')

Hi, lover_gurl. Welcome to the forum.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be very difficult for you. At least you know that you have to leave.
I think trying to stay busy doing something else and maybe going out with friends might help. Try to do something that feels fun and tell yourself that this can't be avoided. I'm sending you a hug. I hope you will feel better.

That is always soo hard to do. Really the only way to do it is to just leave one day and do everything you can to stop thinking about it. The nights will be hard so it's about will power. He's also gonna try and call you all the time because he will hurt so it's gonna be very hard but if you fell it's correct than you should do it.

I was and am still in love with my ex. He was a sociopath, he abused me in every way possible, and his life is STILL going nowhere. Since I left him I have met a very wonderful man who loves me in all of the ways I always wanted to be loved. He's very supportive and financially set, has his own home and vehicle and is very successful, what more could I really ask for right?
I didn't even expect it to happen, I had decided that I was fine with being single for a while and then there he was.
It's not that I don't care for this man, but I never let go of my ex. I would cry everyday thinking why couldn't I have him the way I wanted him to be. The few things that I loved about him always overshadowed the torture he put me through. Which I now can see that was wrong of me to do. I should have never given up on respecting myself. I have to move on. It hurts to say it, but it is starting to become a problem with my new relationship. Kissing, holding hands, etc. all bring up those lingering memories of my ex. It almost kills my heart completely to think about it, and I know that unless I find a way to get over him, this new relationship will never have a chance and I will never have peace.