girlfriend & life issues

Not sure what happened, but my post didn't seem to go up.

I'm a 45 year old man, my girlfriend is about 39 years old. We dated from 2007-2012 (bit off and on) with a few issues around communication and intimacy, but we hadn't been together since then, until now.

She'd been living for a few years with her brother, an unreliable person that was like playing Russian Roulette on his end of the rent and being honest and upfront. We both knew this and discussed the idea of her having him removed from her apartment to be replaced with someone else. In the end though she seemed to toss the idea out because he was family and gave him too many chances until one day he just stopped paying altogether and she got pretty far behind on bills and got evicted.

She was panicked and vulnerable and had no where really to go. I was (and still am until next summer) living with my father in a mini home till I can afford to get my own place. After helping her to move out, (quite a lot of stuff to move), she was appreciative and got very affectionate. Because it happened under those circumstances I questioned it and she just said had true feelings.

However our problem of intimacy still is there. We are only together a month but were together for a few years before and it takes time after all these years, I get that. But I mentioned that I don't want to have the same problems with intimacy we had before and if we're stuck just kissing then it wasn't going to work. At first she had an issue with the 'ultimatum' as she put it, but then we made out on her bed in the tent. She allowed me to touch her some (on the chest) but since then its 50/50 on weather she gently moves my hand to her hip. She's still a virgin far as I know, she grew up an atheist but with a religious mother. In our first relationship she was eager to start a family and innated sex but it was out of the blue and I missed the signals and that next day she asked if we could try again that night but her room mate was around and I wanted more privacy with her first time. The rest of the relationship then never really went anywhere and we slept in rooms next to each other but would usually cuddle to a movie. I sometimes snored so the 1-2 times we were sleeping in the same bed ended not good cause she couldn't sleep so I chose to separate sleep then.

She's going to be sleeping out in the tent for the rest of the summer, so till end of August or September then she'll find an apartment or room to rent in a house in the meantime, preferably cause her credit might be a bit messed up.

Hello! I think the issues you experienced before will remain. There is someone out there who will adore you and welcome the intimacy. The issue is getting engaged in a community and meeting more new people so you have a chance of finding that person!
Good luck and best wishes

I do hear what you're saying and agree. I'm giving it a certain amount of time to see if she'll adjust first. When we made out in my car after I picked her up I was touching her and only 10% of the time did she move my hand so its improving. I was insinuating I wanted to go further but I think she read what I said as I wanted to touch her some more and just smiled and put my hand on her breast. Which is something she's never done. She was overly tired from a work shift and being playful and silly and once made a motion to fondle my chest.
This morning we've been dismantling her old tent (collapsing from strong winds) and with that phase done we need to set up the new stronger tent (hardest part) then move the belongings into the new tent. Tough living this way, but its temporary. After she gets home tonight from work I was thinking to relax in there with her and talk about where this is going. Where she's at mentally.