SEEKING ADVICE Relationship and Sex Question

I'm a 33 year old guy living in the US. I'm a tall thin white guy. I met a woman who has two kids that lives in the Philippines on Facebook and we've been dating for over a year. Her and I just got done fighting a huge battle to finally get her a Visa to come to the US. She's been here for 6 months now and any time I even try to bring up the conversation of sex with her, she's either too shy, ore she accuses me of being with her only for sex. For the record obviously we have had no sex, and I'm a really sexual person. I feel like she's expecting that we're going to have a relationship where we just have no sex. I need advice because I don't know what to do. Obviously she has no interest in porn or anything sexual of any kind either. I worked my ass off to get her here and no I'm not with her just for sex, but all of the other couples we know are age are having sex like rabbits. Is it bad for me to be expecting sex with her or should I leave this person, or just really have a relationship where there is no masturbation, sex, sex talk, no sex of any kind. As a 33 year old guy I don't think I can do that. Please help!

You have every right to expect to be in a physical relationship when that relationship is romantic. Naturally, the depth of that sex and what is ok and what is out of bounds is different in each relationship, but generally speaking, sex is part of a healthy romantic relationship.

You have to gauge what it is you want, and what is acceptable for you. And then you need to have a heart-to-heart with her and see what she expects for the future.

Both people need to be happy for a relationship to function.

Otter wrote:[…] but generally speaking, sex is part of a healthy romantic relationship.

So being asexual, but not aromantic is some kind of unhealthy stuff then? (Asking for a friend.)

That’s not what I suggested, but I’m sorry you took that way. That is why I said “generally speaking”, as in “the general population”. Each person who deems themselves happy with the choice they make regarding this issue should consider it a healthy choice and should be respected for their choice.

In the case of the OP it seems two people differ in their choices and it has caused conflict.

Thanks for the clarification.