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Postby Manners73 » Mon Jul 13, 2020 7:06 pm

I have this thing about me where I have standards and expectations of people and I find that I'm in constant conflict with certain people in my life because they just don't deliver.

I'm respectful for peoples positions even if I really don't think they deserve the position they have been put in. If someone is my manager and I work hard for them and deliver good results every day and always meet my targets then I expect that they should meet my expectations of them as well, yet I find that I'm constantly disappointed.

I really don't see why my expectations shouldn't be met. Surely this isn't just a one way street.

Am i expecting too much of people?

I'm actually in a meeting on Wednesday morning with the managing director and I'm going to say all of this. Surely standards in the workplace are a two way street.
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Re: Expectations....

Postby saucygirl31 » Mon Jul 13, 2020 9:16 pm

i remember talking about this being disappointed - for me i flip it and just assume everyones stupid and incapable so when someone isnt its exciting. instead of getting my hopes up which i did more when i was younger.

no one knows if ur expecting too mush because u didnt really go into detail

how do we hold people to meet our expectations? maybe u could threaten that ull put ur time elsewhere (if you think they rely on you and they need it to be a two way street) or blatantly tell them theyre not good enough (if you think it would effect them for the better). alternatively u could just mind your business and do well and control what you can control, to find the right time to spotlight ur managers lack of whatever u are wanting from him to his superior. maybe bipass the entire problem and go straight to someone who can do something about it.

idk there are so many options it is really largely dependant on what types of people ur dealing w
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Postby Akuma » Tue Jul 14, 2020 4:25 am

Manners73 wrote:I have this thing about me where I have standards and expectations of people and I find that I'm in constant conflict with certain people in my life because they just don't deliver.

I'm respectful for peoples positions even if I really don't think they deserve the position they have been put in. If someone is my manager and I work hard for them and deliver good results every day and always meet my targets then I expect that they should meet my expectations of them as well, yet I find that I'm constantly disappointed.

I really don't see why my expectations shouldn't be met. Surely this isn't just a one way street.


Well for me this shows that you expect balance and justice. I think thats very relatable. That someone has power over you deem inferior to you must be hard to swallow. Sadly in the workplace this is often the case though. Ive had contact with a lot of bosses whose only skill was talking - and not the interesting or constructive type. But an endless waterfall of bla that seemed primarily designed to coerce brainless customers into buying product - and beyond that I sometimes could barely make out a person. You could of course look for a job where you actually work for somebody who you can see as your equal or who you even admire. But I dunno. Maybe its really not that much of an expectation but a schema thing.
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Re: Expectations....

Postby justonemoreperson » Wed Jul 15, 2020 5:47 am

Manners73 wrote:
I'm actually in a meeting on Wednesday morning with the managing director and I'm going to say all of this. Surely standards in the workplace are a two way street.


Don't talk about people not meeting standards and expectations, as that's subjective and emotive. Stick to specific instances where it's affected your ability to do your job effectively.

Generally I find people disappointing; hypocritical, badly thought out ideas with a belief system designed to fortify their fragile sense of self-worth which displays itself in how they get along with others.

That said, I'm sure they'd be equally disappointed in me for their own reasons, so I don't really focus on it; it's just a mechanism for measurement, and I don't see the use of measuring yourself against anyone else.
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Re: Expectations....

Postby Manners73 » Wed Jul 15, 2020 11:05 am

Thanks guys. I've been suspended pending an investigation into falsification of something or other.

I'm completely innocent BTW.

I did actually expect this one coming at some point.

-- Wed Jul 15, 2020 11:13 am --

At least I'll get a lie in.
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Re: Expectations....

Postby poxalis » Wed Jul 15, 2020 5:20 pm

my expectations for bosses/management are never met. i find it really difficult to work for others.
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Re: Expectations....

Postby Esmoke » Wed Jul 15, 2020 5:56 pm

I used to have a bad attitude towards management. I was sort of raised by a former Marine and a blue collar alcoholic. It was us ca them, management was there to bust our balls and were basically useless and unnecessary. I’m more knowledgeable about how things work now I don’t have as much issues with management anymore
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Re: Expectations....

Postby voidance » Thu Jul 16, 2020 12:14 am

As a worker in an overpopulated world, you are dispensable. That's something you need to chew on in the fact the world has changed in that aspect. Even more so with the COVID-19 era that started.

We are already beginning to feel the starting effects of a massive economic disaster.

So, in my country right now, if you have a job you keep it. No matter what. And that's that.

Life is not a fair game and no, things do not have to be in both directions, even if they should be. I would definitely not approach the managing director of a company with this. It seems like a bad career choice to waste time on something that in the face of Covid is probably very small fish to fry.

But, within your labour law, do as you will.
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