Broke no-contact after 7 moths! & we are about to meet again

One half year ago I met a guy at our friends party then we had 2 months of amazing dating.. I thought. When he suddenly dumped me 1 say after our last date. He said that we have good chemistry and a lot of fun ( we went to cinema and dinners on our dates where we talked laughed and kissed a lot). But that he realized I want a partnership and that he is very far away from that and got a lot to handle with himself and cause he felt he relatively recently came out of a relationship despite it was about 6 months before us be they were together 3 years...(he is 29).
He said it takes too much energy to talk and meet so structured ( I liked do plan time/place/activity 1 day before the date while he liked more spontaneity and go with the flow/decide in the moment) and said he did not want to date too seriously or often so he couldnt continue seeing me despite it really was a hard decision he said.

He said I'm a sweet fragile girl who deserves to meet someone who can give me everything I want (I hate that he didnt want to be the one).
I agreed and left him alone... even though my heart ached.

I tried to move on and date others but couldnt forget him 100%. Especially after our mutal friends recently said he is single, plus that he started to appear in my dreams and I read a book I really think he would love to read. So I gave him the advice of it (Mark Manson- "Everything is fu*ked') on snapchat.
He said he is happy to hear from me, thanked me and we texted about books, even when I responded short he wrote longer. So I asked him about what he did this summer and he started almost bragging, I could tell he seemed to want to impress me but also show that he had "did the things he wanted" (like travel and go to festivals and just live life fully) so I started to be more curious about where he is in his state or mind now in terms of dating me more seriously than before.

He started asking for more book-tips and we joked about having a bookclub, then he asked If I'm going out this weekend and he said yes.. Then I asked him what he is doing but he said he is staying home. I said it sounded like he wants to meet and he said he was just curious so I straight up asked him if he wants to meet (i was drunk at Saturday with friends so I dared) and he said yes.. 'perhaps Monday but that he had to double check'. I asked next day If he did that but he suggested Tuesday. I dont want to meet tomorrow cause it's been 30 degrees sun all days and Tuesday is 15 degrees rain & wind all day plus now after the alcohol is gone I'm more nervous to see him again so suddenly maybe. I thought I might only see him again at friends parties... So I suggested Thursday or Friday and he said "unfortunately I cant Friday, let's book Thursday preliminary"... the word preliminarily doesn't sound so enthusiastic and now I'm scared to get my heart broken again and doubt if I'm ready emotionally to deal with possibly another reaction from him again ;(

But I never felt more alive with someone before as when I dated him. He is extremely charming goodlooking, deep fun flirty and all at once. We could talk for many hours without an end.. about everything.. psychology history philosophy while getting to know how each other works I'm relationships etc. We both know what we or others did wrong and how to make it better. Anyway I just feel he is special and the fact we got the same friend group is both thrilling yet a bit scary at the same time as If it ends they think its going to be stiff between us but no, not now. If I'd date him more and we perhaps slept together then I would feel much more vulnerable and there is more at stake...
To be honest I was in the beginning planning of taking it so slow that we only spoke a bit and meet in beginning of September cause I want to find a steady job, take driving license, travel (I have 1 week in Greece planned), diet (lose 5kg weight), and so some beauty treatments before he sees me again.. so I'm better "equipped" and maximize the chances of him liking me now BUT perhaps he will find another girl in a month (for example in Mystery land festival he is going to with my friends) so I cant risk waiting...

Any advise to what to do now? Meet him on Thursday and how do I handle that? How do I appear so high value that he falls in love this time around? ♡

Hi Asadgirl,

My immediate gut reaction is be careful. There are a lot of red-flags in what you wrote, but it feels like the main concern is you two have very different goals. Understood about him being charming, attractive, intelligent etc., but my worry for you is that you are thinking with a few physical changes he'll turn into someone who wants to settle down. You could end up being dumped again when someone new catches his eye.

I am not saying you shouldn't meet him, just if you do, go into it with eyes wide open.

On a more jaded note, some people just don't settle down into one relationship for a long time. Especially those who are charming, attractive, intelligent, and so on, sometimes people with all of those traits can end up constantly and easily tempted by new relationships. Please be careful for your sake.