Is this normal to feel after a breakup?

I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of almost two years and I’m going through a roller coaster of emotions. I was the one who dumped her, and for many reasons. A lot of friends and family believed that she wasn’t good for me and some even thought she was abusive at times. Yet since the breakup all the good memories of her began to flood my brain and I didn’t even see the negative in her anymore. But besides that, since the breakup I’ve pretty much been stalking her nonstop and she’s been hanging out with one of her guy friends a lot more who she used to like. I don’t even know if they’re dating or not, but for some reason I’ve been feeling so angry, depressed, and jealous over her being with this guy. Is this normal? How do I cope?

I think it's normal. It's a biological impulese built into us as mammals who pair-bond to have strong feelings for another. When we're close to someone, they're part of our "territory." I'm not talking about a possessive sort of thing, not that we own someone, or should be trying to control them ultimately, but that we find our bonds to be strong and to see them with someone else is a biological jolt to our being.

The second part: How do you cope? Well.... for one, can you go on a little trip somewhere, to get away from her, your life and all that? You should always remember, no matter what you're going through, you WILL get over/get through all this and one day it won't invade your thoughts or emotions any longer.

It might help you to talk to someone who has been through this before. Especially someone who had a serious relationship for many years involving marriage and kids. We get through all this stuff, believe me. It just gets better with time. You have to go through it to get out of it. I wouldn't recommend trying to stuff the bad feelings away. You have to grieve to get over this stuff.