Online relationship advice requested

Miserie wrote:Well, that was a fast response. How do people respond so fast? I would get extremely anxious. Sorry to ask again. Ironically, I'm trying to practice. I'm sorry if my PMs take a few days to reply.

It's no problem, Miserie - please take as long as you need! I do worry about what people think but I guess I'm getting used to this forum now! Plus I tend to worry about keeping people waiting for replies and perhaps annoying them!

Miserie wrote:You don't have to feel need to take the realtionship anywhere. It can simply be just communication.

Fantastic general advice. How much we miss out on when we don't enjoy the relationship part of the relationship.

xdude wrote:

Miserie wrote:You don't have to feel need to take the realtionship anywhere. It can simply be just communication.

Fantastic general advice. How much we miss out on when we don't enjoy the relationship part of the relationship.

Yes indeed - it was a great reminder for me! Just stay in the moment & enjoy what we have!

*Update* Well, this is odd! I had a Merry Christmas message from the chap in question (on Pinterest!) early Christmas morning, but I was unable to reply until later that day, as I was spending the day with Mum & also went to church in the morning. I replied as soon as I could though, but I've had nothing in reply. I've sent him a picture as usual over the last 2 days - nothing! I wouldn't think anything of it but this is someone who has messaged me every day for the last 8 months. Of course, he could be ill, but I checked Twitter & he's been posting on there as normal. I'm trying not to let my paranoia kick in lol!

It will be very ironic if I've spent all this time & energy worrying about the guy & the friendship for him to just vanish! Typical!

Don't worry about that. I'm quite sure he eventually replies. If he has been messaging with you for 8 months, he obviously likes you. You're probably just over-analyzing the situation.

Can I ask, what do you think about this guy? Do you like him?

jennasto wrote:Don't worry about that. I'm quite sure he eventually replies. If he has been messaging with you for 8 months, he obviously likes you. You're probably just over-analyzing the situation.

Can I ask, what do you think about this guy? Do you like him?

Thanks jennasto - I'm quite good at over-thinking lol! Do I like him? Well, I like what I know about him which isn't a whole lot - he doesn't seem to like talking about personal stuff. I don't even know his family situation. But we seem to have a few things in common, which is nice!

Ok. Well, he probably wants to keep things casual. Has he ever suggested meeting in real life?

This was actually a good advice... "You don't have to feel need to take the realtionship anywhere. It can simply be just communication."

And communication takes it somewhere eventually, either into a more meaningful relationship or not (if that makes any sense).

jennasto wrote:Ok. Well, he probably wants to keep things casual. Has he ever suggested meeting in real life?

This was actually a good advice... "You don't have to feel need to take the realtionship anywhere. It can simply be just communication."

And communication takes it somewhere eventually, either into a more meaningful relationship or not (if that makes any sense).

Yes, I thought it was great advice too! Just enjoy things for what they are - what will be, will be! No, he's never suggested meeting in real life. Casual is probably best just now!

I'm going have a shot at just using Twitter for half an hour a day - I'll set a timer so I know when my time's up! There's no way I want to go back to the level of addiction I had - spending 24/7 on social networks, getting heavily emotionally invested in the lives of strangers! If my usage starts getting out of control again (as I suspect it might!) I'll have to go cold turkey again. As my psychiatrist put it, some people just can't exercise moderation and have to avoid their "drugs of choice" (in my case, the Internet!) all together! I've messaged my friend to let him know. We shall see what happens!

Edit: I've just had a reply from him to my message on Twitter saying "Hi LDD! Will do!" I don't know whether to laugh or cry but I can say this - none of this was worth getting my knickers into a knot over! I'm saving my emotional energy for real-life friendships from now on!

Sounds like a good idea! It's good to do something else to occupy your mind. Take care

jennasto wrote:Sounds like a good idea! It's good to do something else to occupy your mind. Take care

Thanks jennasto! I'm afraid I was being far too seriously serious about social media! I need to focus on other stuff lol!