HELP! I know NC is best, I can't stop!

He broke it off. In a gchat message. No explanation.

I had to chase down the reasons he doesn't want me.

There is no chance of reconciliation. Now I know how he sees me, I know he can never truly love me.

I know I MUST get over him and FAST. I have a lot of stuff I am dealing with apart from this.

How can I forget him? I swing between sadness/anger/still loving him/wanting to hate him.
The loss of control over my emotional reaction to rejection is embarrassing and humiliating for me.
I'm in such pain. I just have no idea what to do........is it OK to pretend you hate someone just to feel like you have lost less?

Or is that just immature? I just feel so kicked in the teeth.

Hello Redrob,

No real words here to help how you feel. It can be an extremely difficult process to overcome a relationship, especially if it is toxic in any way.

I would like to direct you to this "sticky" topic in Relationship forum. It is about the stages of grieving. High conflict or difficult relationships, when ending, are very much like being in a state of grief.

relationship/topic84035.html

This topic has a lot of interesting insights. Remember too, to be patient, be compassionate and be supportive of your self. Allow yourself to feel your heartache, as hard as it is. In my view, you must allow your emotions to be expressed. Whether you do this with a close friend or loved one, alone, or here on this forum. It is part of the healing journey.

All the best