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Postby notever86 » Sat Oct 08, 2016 5:51 pm

I don't find many guys attractive. I always when I was younger liked every guy I seen but then after my anxiety hocd and rejection I've hardly ever find guys attractive. I'm not a lesbian please don't say that I have hocd which has ruined my life. I find when I do find someone attractive it's someone I can never be with like a guy in a relationship or a celebrity. I have a specific type and the cutest guy I ever seen was a stranger I seen years ago and I try to tell myself that is ridiculous to compare guys to him but I feel like he's my type I want someone like him. I see no guys that are my type and these guys I see are shallow nasty nothing worth liking. I'm tired of having to hold on to a stranger from years ago to make me happy because I feel like I will never find someone better. I feel like people will think I'm a bad person but I would never be mean to someone just cause they are not my type. I feel like I don't know what to do and advice
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Re: Not attracted to anyone

Postby Sweet Cherry Bomb » Sat Oct 08, 2016 8:16 pm

Lack of sexual interest is pretty common with Anxiety and depression is usually always friends with anxiety. I wouldn't worry unless you think it is related to your sexuality. If so then that requires soul searching to figure it out.

Other than that I would just think it' a side effect of anxiety, some depression, and even any medicine you are on for treatment.

Plus to be completely honest there are very few people in my surrounding I would see as 'sexually attractive'. I can see when someone is pretty/good looking...but not in the sexual attraction way.

They say the average female at most has 7 - 10 sexual partners in a lifetime. That is a new sexual partner every 4 - 7 years (if became sexually active at age 20.) Which I could see being true if you stay sexually active with a person for a couple years.

If you are a male it slightly increases...so up to 15 sexual partners.
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Re: Not attracted to anyone

Postby PsyHealer » Sun Oct 16, 2016 3:15 pm

I also think it may be about low sexual libido, as Sweet Cherry Bomb has posted (and btw thanks for the statistics). I'm just adding here that another thing that reduces sexual interest is overmethylation.
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Re: Not attracted to anyone

Postby Nyyx » Thu Nov 10, 2016 12:13 pm

Hey, read your post, and wondered if you had considered you might be on the asexual spectrum. It is massively misunderstood, And yes it's a thing. I usually encourage people to look around themselves and see if they feel it applies , but I would be happy to post a quick set of relevant facts if your interested.

If not I wish you all the best, :D and I also agree that high levels of anxiety and related meds can also effect your libido, but if it feels like 'more' than just that then maybe it's worth investigating.
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