LOVE

OK I HAVE A MAJOR DELIMA I AM MARRIED BUT TOATTLY IN LOVE WITH MY B/F BROTHER INLAW HE IS SO PERFECT EVERYTIME IM AROUND HIM I GET BUTTERFLYS WHAT SHOULD I DO? ITS NOT LIKE I CAN TELL HIM IT WOULD JUST START TO MANY PROBLEMS.

define what love is for you in this situation

is this really love?

can it be love if you don't have any sort of intimacy? mental or physical?

wanderingmoon,
yes it can be defined even as an affair if she witholds emotionally from her spouse. Wedding VOWS cover pretty much everything.
You ask excellent questions.


Jenmeabe,
I know I have spoke to you, at this point I dont remember the details, nothing personal, I just do that....sometimes.

You are correct, if you say or do anything it will cause problems.
If there are children involved, I really beg you to rethink going any further with feelings for him.

I can not and do not want to tell you how or what to do with your life. I am would be more concern about children being involved than not.

All My Best to you Hun,
Red

Right now, it's a simple crush. I believe this happens to most anyone during a long-term, committed relationship. What matters is how you deal with your attraction to this "other man".

I'll cut to the chase and tell you right now that Mr. X is not perfect. He has annoying habits and quirks like anyone else... you just haven't seen them. NO ONE is perfect.

If you love your husband, stay with him. Every relationship falls into a routine that lacks excitement, but the answer isn't seeking out a new relationship with another man. If you want to leave your husband, be honest with him. This shouldn't be about anyone else or your attractions to another guy... it should only be about how you feel about your relationship with your hubby. If you truly don't see things working with him, by all means get a divorce.

Just don't cheat. It's unnecessary, cowardly, and ends up hurting everyone. You could never have a secure relationship with Mr. X if you cheated on your husband with him. How could he ever trust you?

Boredom, attraction to another person, and curiosity are no excuse to break someone's trust AND their heart.

( didn't want to sidetrack the thread with me stuff, but i wanted to say thanks to smalltalk for complimenting me, as well as say that i notice how extremely supportive she(?) is all over the forum and i appreciate what she does. i am sure dozens of others do as well. )