Do men just forget quickly and move on?

I had a FWB thing going on for about 6 months and was the guy's first sexual patner. He finished it and I am more upset than I should be. I knew what I was getting into.

Do men just forget quickly and move on? I know that's a big generalistion but women are lead to believe that we women get attached and men are programmed differently, to sow their wild oats and move on to the next. I am the only person he has slept with so I would hate to think that.

I want to contact him but think this would turn him off, I would like for him to contact me but there is my question - has he already forgotten me?

Depends heavily on the man and the relationship. For a lot of men in a lot of circumstances, yes, they absolutely move on quickly. They come into a relationship with one goal, pursue that goal single-mindedly, and when they have what they want or can't get it anymore they move on. People with this mentality about relationships don't often think any further than that.

A lot of men do invest in relationships beyond that. Maybe they are going for more, such as emotional attachment. Others might naturally form an attachment and genuine interest in a person.

On the whole, I don't know which is more prevalent, but I do know the first type seem to be more prolific in general. It's quite possible it's not their numbers that are larger, but the number of different relationships they've come and gone through is larger and thus it seems like every man is completely untouched by their relationships and just after sex.

May i ask why he broke it off? Or do you not know that? Maybe he just found someone more his type? Maybe you did something he didn't like? I say just call him and ask. That is the only way to clear your mind. I'm a guy and I don't move on that easy. I can tell you i have been with my fair share of women and I always hurt letting them go or them dumping me. It always hurt and was hard for me. But there always has been a good reason for the departure. Just ask him. Don't let pride get in the way of you clearing your mind. Good luck miss Tuesday

Do women have cornflakes for breakfast ?

Brassmonkey wrote:May i ask why he broke it off? Or do you not know that? Maybe he just found someone more his type? Maybe you did something he didn't like? I say just call him and ask. That is the only way to clear your mind. I'm a guy and I don't move on that easy. I can tell you i have been with my fair share of women and I always hurt letting them go or them dumping me. It always hurt and was hard for me. But there always has been a good reason for the departure. Just ask him. Don't let pride get in the way of you clearing your mind. Good luck miss Tuesday

Well it was strictly NSA and I was starting to expect a bit more than he was willing to give. He may have met someone but I would not like to know that for sure. I am really upset by this (I should not do the NSA thing,I know) and I feel like I meant nothing to him the way he just walked away from me. I just wish he would reconsider but I can't make that happen.
Thank you for the good luck wishes

Everyone's different. Importance of sticking with things taught by parents will affect this more than anything else. How parents respond following a divorce too will impact a child's development and value system. Whatever combination of factors like these have me unable to even consider new relationships for quite a while following an ended one. Typically, and so far (age 42) I go several years between attempts. I'm very much a candle that burns twice as bright partner it seems. Things are hot n heavy quickly, but haven't as yet lasted beyond 1 year. Then I 'make due' for a few years afterwords. I'm presently over a year since my last lover and no major inclinations about finding a new one.

I've read the writings of many people men and women who go from relationship right into a nother one. With no time to consider and learn from the failed one (in my opinion.) Guess that's what's meant by serial daters. I've never had a stated FWB as all of mine have begun as monogamous 'traditional' ones. At least for my part. The last serious gf seemed to consider us FWB as per her cheating.

katana wrote:Do women have cornflakes for breakfast ?

LOL Katana! =]

My ex-fiance and I were together for 4 and a half years but after he broke up with me it took him only 2 weeks to find someone new. So yeah, I think guys simply do not love as deeply as women do. For them it is simply about getting what they want and when the woman is no longer good enough to move on to the next one. I know I sound like the bitter ex, and in some ways I am, but I have come to realize that the reason he was able to move on so fast is because all men move on so fast.

I'm sorry my dear. I hope you find what you are looking for.

Thexena I think this has nothing to do with wether someone is man or woman honestly. I think it depends on the individual person. I been with a woman once that after a year of us dating we broke up and she was dating the following week while i took a year to actually move on. Thats just the way things are unfortunately.

I personally agree it depends on the person, though I suppose there may be a statistical tendency for males to move on quicker.

That written, the other aspect to keep in mind is to ask "What type of men/women do I tend to be attracted to?" What I mean is some people tend to choose partners that have issues, are emotionally distant, hard to get, etc., for reasons of their own. If those are the types one goes for then not surprisingly those types will tend to move on quicker too.