Should one be open about their use of prostitutes?

I'm nineteen and four months ago after a year of intense thinking I was convinced that I had to lose my virginity in order to get sex and thus due to the paradox my only option was to use a prostitute to "treat" / "cure" my virginity. So that was how I entered into the realm of prostituiton. I ended up posting to my Twitter a picture of me snorting cocaine off of one of her lovely body parts, so now my entire social network is aware, but of course not of my virginity as no one could have imagined, but of my use of a prostitute for whatever reason they would later think of.

All my long term friends still talk to me except for one girl but she has a boyfriend now anyway. My other female friends still talks to me. Other people I wouldn't talk to before now start hanging out with me. They all know I had used a prostitute. I see nothing wrong with this and plan to get another escort once I have a job again. I am unable to form intimate relationships so I plan to use an escort every week for the rest of my life.

How do people view this? Is this socially acceptable to openly talk about when male friends ask? I did have a female friend ask, but I just told her it was because "I wanted to try out sex and see what it feels like", she didn't give a responce or say anything about it after that. We still often hang out.

I am in therapy to learn how to connect, bond, and form attachments with others and I want to stop wearing social masks around people because there really isn't any reason that I have to. I don't need to hide anything about my life and part of the reason I believe I'm unhappy is that try to keep up fake relationships with people and if I do that then it obviously makes sense how I would never be able to feel any emotion for them aside from being acquaintances or people with a common interest.

Trapgod man you're wild. At your age its normal that most your friends will think its cool and won't care. There is an age though where you could be seen in a different way later on in life. That age depends on many things. Yiu, your friends, who else is seeing this... etc etc. I worked the club scene in Miami and although i didn't buy prostitutes I had an excess number of women at my feet because I worked the clubs. So everything else was still going on, the drugs, the sex etc. Yet I
wouldn't/couldn't brag about it openly due to my status in the nightlife industry. It just wouldn't be good for business or future good times.

TrapGod -

Some practical concerns:

1.) Depending on where you live there is the legal issue, though even in countries where prostitution is legal/illegal it's common enough that people debate the law either way.

2.) There is the risk of STDs which is true of sex in general, but possibly higher for those who engage in sex with many partners. Be aware that condoms do not entirely protect against all STDs. Please be informed of the risks for your own sake.

That aside -

It's good to hear you are in therapy to work on yourself and how you relate to others. As for the use of prostitutes, I'm not here to judge you, but obviously some people will. How you feel about yourself, and the want to be honest versus how you feel about their opinions is up to you. We really only have control over our own opinions; others have their opinions and we simply cannot control how they see things.

Obviously too prostitution is one of those topics that invokes strong emotional reactions in people (as does sex in general). It's one of those topics about which you can find people who agree with you if that's what you want to hear, and likewise find plenty of people who disagree if one is open to it. In other words you can expect to get a mix of opinions.

In the end though we can't make everyone happy, and to whatever degree there is a risk of anyone being hurt, that's mostly you and to a degree the person you are making the exchange with.

If you're using cocaine you have bigger problems looming than prostitutes.

HesDeltanCaptain wrote:If you're using cocaine you have bigger problems looming than prostitutes.

Depends on whether there is an addiction or not. Cocaine itself can be safely used and is even made from a natural origin. I needed a way to make it really badass and so I figured snorting a line of cocaine off her ass would do it. Cocaine is also seen as a symbol of power of wealth. People such as the Charlie Sheen, the majority of WallStreet stoke brokers, and many more. Huge difference between cocaine and crack if that was what you were thinking of. If you are uneducated on drugs www.erowid.org is the best learning resource.

Should one be open about their use of prostitutes?

Its probably not what you happen to talk about with some people, but with certain people there's no reason why you have to hide it or not talk about it as if its either just another thing, - or a good thing if you had a particularly good time with one, lol.

xdude wrote:TrapGod -
1.) Depending on where you live there is the legal issue, though even in countries where prostitution is legal/illegal it's common enough that people debate the law either way.

2.) There is the risk of STDs which is true of sex in general, but possibly higher for those who engage in sex with many partners. Be aware that condoms do not entirely protect against all STDs. Please be informed of the risks for your own sake.

It's good to hear you are in therapy to work on yourself and how you relate to others. As for the use of prostitutes, I'm not here to judge you, but obviously some people will. How you feel about yourself, and the want to be honest versus how you feel about their opinions is up to you. We really only have control over our own opinions; others have their opinions and we simply cannot control how they see things.

Obviously too prostitution is one of those topics that invokes strong emotional reactions in people (as does sex in general). It's one of those topics about which you can find people who agree with you if that's what you want to hear, and likewise find plenty of people who disagree if one is open to it. In other words you can expect to get a mix of opinions.

In the end though we can't make everyone happy, and to whatever degree there is a risk of anyone being hurt, that's mostly you and to a degree the person you are making the exchange with.

1) I consider myself above the law so stuff like that doesn't come into my decision making model. Of course I obviously know I have to be careful and not get caught, but that is why I use professional escorts that have reviews instead of a random street prostitute.

2) So that previous question actually ties into here. Escorts require clients to wear condoms and even get regular STD checks. I am nineteen and into the social groups. Normal girls actually go to bars and party to get drunk and do sexual stuff with random guys they never met. They have UNPROTECTED sex and even kiss lots more guys than they have sex with. I honestly consider the professional escort to be safer. I actually asked some of my female friends who have had sex with 5+ guys if they ever had an STD test done and they all said no.

I guess one of the main problems would be that most people have never used a high class escort themselves so they have the image in their mind of an unnatractive ugly women probably on the street corner.

TrapGod -

If you think about the large number of people who use illegal drugs, it is evidence that people don't always follow the law. I don't know that they feel they are 'above' the law, but for whatever reasons in the balance of all the things they want, believe, and risk they are willing to take, some make a decision to use illegal drugs anyway.

I doubt we'd ever get anything remotely like an accurate statistic on the percentage of people who have paid for prostitution for all the same reasons many people are not inclined to talk about talk about their sex lives in general.

Really though the question goes back to your original question, should you or shouldn't you be open about it? There is really no answer. Some people will be fine with. Some will not. That's really just a matter of what you are willing to deal with, but people do/will have their opinions and there is simply no way to stop them from having them. We can block others opinions out, but they still have them and they have the right to have them.

p.s. Good to hear you are aware of the STD risks though. The reality is that the condom industry is a business, and like the majority of businesses, they are inclined to present the benefits of their product first and foremost, and minimize the risks/deficits. For example many people don't know that condoms still leave people at risk of getting herpes, and the human papillomavirus (aka "HPV"). Likewise prostitution as a business, hopefully you are at least dealing with a situation that is regulated. The same risk applies that when people are doing things for profit they're not always inclined to be entirely honest if that conflicts with making money.

TrapGod, it sounds like you already posted the prostitute picture and it didn't cause any harm to your friendships and probably raised your status in their eyes (I assume that is why you posted the picture). So the question is whether further openness is beneficial? Probably further openness won't gain you anything and risks harming your status.

Also, I think prostitutes can't substitute for a long-term relationship with love, raising children, etc. Maybe I idealize what I've never had, but that's my opinion.

Keep it to yourself dude, especially!! to girls. Most women see prostituation as exploitation (rightly so often) and will think you're a total jerk.

One a side note though, sex with prostitutes is NOTHING compared to sex with girls who are into it. It's an empty shell.