Porn is coming before me

I feel like I am going mad. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2years. 9months ago I found that he had been on chat rooms flirting with girls, telling them how gorgeous they are and how they should send him topless pics. I was gutted and nearly broke with him, but he promised never to do it again.

Now he looks at porn nearly everyday. As soon as he has the house to himself. It makes me feel so insecure, like, why arent I good enough for him? I decided to talk 2 him, and told him how much it hurt me, again he apoligised, but the next day he carried on!

It makes me feel so cheap having sex with him after he's watched porn, so I told him that i wont sleep with him on days he's watched porn, and his reply was, "Looks like your not gonna get any for a while!"!!!!! Imagine how that made me feel, he was choosin porn over our sex life, now he just acts like everything is fine n carries on lookin at porn.

I constantly need to cry, please give me advice and your opinions
Thanks xxx

whats a jerk...so he'd rather jack off than have sex...he sounds kinda pathetic to me. why are you still with him? you deserve alot better

My boyfriend watches it alot but he never ever ever puts it before me he only watches it when im not available lol which i understand!! but your boyfriend sounds a bit selfish and i wud ditch him!!!! find someone who wants you and not there hand and a dvd

Sounds like there's something more going on here than just "I like porn more than my girlfriend." I wonder if he has an addictive personality. It may have little to do with you... it sounds like a compulsion. It just isn't normal to be looking at porn all the time, and if he's letting it come between him and real sex with a female, he needs help.

I'd dump him, though. You can't fix him, and his problem is very negatively affecting you. I know it's so hard to let go when you love someone, but if he loved you, he wouldn't make you feel so awful, especially over something as stupid as porn. Good luck to you.

I have sort of the same problem bf enjoys porn. He was single for a very long time now we have been together for almost 5 yrs. Living together 2 yrs. Recently he set up seperate user accounts on our computer so he has his privacy. However I am the admin. on computer so i can still see his history and usually only when he comes home from work in the morning and no one is home he looks at porn sites and brings cd's from guys at work home and looks at the stuff. He doesnt know that i know. We only have sex like 2-3 times a month because he is always tired. He works nights. So 4 nights he works 7pm-7am and then he is home 4 days. So i know he is tired but also I think alot of it is the porn too. I dont like it and have talked to him about it and he says it has nothing to do with me he just likes it. I feel like i am competing with it. Any ideas? am i just being insecure?

Why don't you girls suggest working porn into your sex life? Many couples do this, and if you aren't comfortable with the raunchy stuff , ask your bf if you can start off watching soft porn together. Light some candles, put on the satin nightie, etc. Change his focus and make his obsession include you.