Why am I still obsessed with this woman?

I'm 21 now, but I met this girl seven years ago in Highschool.

I had a lot of issues back then that I have mostly gotten over now. I was suicidal, I was on pills for ADHD, and I was even suffering from delusions and stuff like that. I suspect some of these issues were a result of the pills I was on.

So when I first became friends with this girl, I did have a lot of problems. Admittedly I found her sexually attractive too and just something about her got me obsessed with her. At the time I thought it was love, but really I was just an obsessed stalker.

Even though she wanted nothing to do with me, I continued trying to talk to her. It eventually got so bad her boyfriend was threatening me and she turned a bunch of my friends against me. Eventually she even got the school involved and I got removed from a class I shared with her.

These days I don't have any of the issues I used to have, yet I'm still obsessed with this girl. I've blocked her on facebook, deleted her number, and I've even been trying to disassociate myself with people that talk to her. I've tried to convince her to block me on facebook herself too, since that would make it practically impossible to talk to her. Yet she always just ignores me when I ask her to do that.

To be honest I'm not even living in the same town as her anymore. Yet I still think about her all the time. I even unblocked her on facebook once and had a message typed out to send to her, before realizing I need to stop.

I know I need to move on, but for some reason I just can't seem to forget about her. I really just want to forget she exists and find a woman that will love me back, instead of obsessing over one that clearly dislikes me.

Nyakitty,


I am glad to see that you acknowledge that it is time to move on. I used to really like a girl myself but she had a boyfriend because I did not act quick enough. My case is a little different than yours but I cant relate to the fact that you probably thought about this girl a lot, just like I did with mine.
Just remember the lessons you've learned from this encounter and try to improve yourself by identifying what went wrong in order to not let it happen again. Moving on can be hard but it is necessary for you to do.

Maybe is because you are alone.
I used to have the same problem as yours, not so dramatically but spending all the time thinking about some girls throughout many years in my life, all the time daydreaming about having a family with them, etc.
I am pretty sure that I suffer from emotional dependency because of my lonelyness. I have a very poor social life so it is quite logical to feel alone and to miss a person to share your thoughts with, your feelings, problems, to speak, to have some companionship, etc.
I realized that when I have a good conversation with people I do not feel alone and I feel loved, so I do not miss this platonic love.
I think what you miss is some companionship.

I think you should do some activities like working out some sports, learning to draw, have new hobbies. You would have your mind busy and you would meet new people, so this obsession would be eliminated little by little because you will have your mind in other things but her.

I searched recently one of my platonic loves(a college girl that I liked very much) on Whatsapp and I discovered that she has a child. Imagine, the girl that I daydream all the time about having a family several years ago. And I said to myself "###$ her" or "que la den por culo".