THIS IS SO BENEFICIAL TO ALL WOMEN.....IF THEY APPLY IT

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another
rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Despite the disclaimer that "all men are NOT dogs," you seem to view men as mere tools of women who either will bow to their every whim or won't, in which case they become useless. Maybe if you clarified a bit this topic that you've clearly thought a lot about. Otherwise, some good advice that applies to both men and women and that either will only understand with maturity--whether at 20 or 60.

Despite the disclaimer that "all men are NOT dogs," you seem to view men as mere tools of women who either will bow to their every whim or won't, in which case they become useless. Maybe if you clarified a bit this topic that you've clearly thought a lot about. Otherwise, some good advice that applies to both men and women and that either will only understand with maturity--whether at 20 or 60.

I don't see anything that should be gender specific in this post. Why are you targetting men with it? The same thing could be said about women.

yeah...i'm starting to feel bad for the guys here. especially because gosh knows we girls can be really horrible to deal with! i mean, i'm a feminist...but just have to be honest!

i agree that advice can go for both sexes.
but i dont think it's harsh. it's rules that women and men need to remember! these are GREAT tips and mostly it's women who are the caretakers and they put up with a lot of crap and men take it for granted if the women aren't careful to watch out for themselves first ya know

I just ended a short term situation that was headed no where. no where fast. I am feeling sad, but strong. Gosh I sure miss him though...

jeez ladies could you be more negative. forget all the gender/ sex/ feminist mumbo jumbo..... it's empowering!

I LIKED IT kid!! good job.

thanks beautiful!!!

I know .....sheeesh peeps......I just found this and liked it.