Pushing my boyfriend away...

A few things to know before reading this post: my boyfriend is one of the most loyal people my best friend and I have ever met, and he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me.

The past few weeks my boyfriend has been getting more and more calls from his girls friends who are having problems with their relationships and will go off and help them. It bugs me a bit that he just go and do these things no questions asked. Then last Friday he calls me and tells me his Ex girlfriend needs help to get her motorcycle running because she is home for the summer. He takes her over to his parents house, and it bugs me. To me him helping out an ex girlfriend is something that upsets me greatly. So for the next few days his girlfriends call him about how their boyfriends have left them or how they dont know how to deal with them. Then he goes out and helps his ex because she just broke up with her boyfriend. It has gotten to the point where all we talk about is me needing help because I can't take the fact that his friends are taking him away from me. We discussed it and we believe because I am insecure and full of anxiety. Now him and I are on a break and it is killing me inside. I know I need help, but I don't have health insurance until I start school in a month and I can't be without him. I hurts me so much that it had to come to this. Please somebody help.

Yes he may be Dr Phil Jr but Dr Phil has his wife in the audience every episode. He should always include you or ask.....that is only fair and I do believ in having friends of the opposite sex. I am friends with my ex who is involved but there is a line that cant be crossed. I dont bring him over to my parents and if I did I would include my boyfriend and his girlfriend. He is out of line and unless you are included he shouldnt be doing this. How would he feel if you did. Stick to your guns as hard as it is and dont give in until he realizes why he is wrong. I know how painful tis is and ow much anxiety u feel but I am telling you he isnt worth it if he doesnt respect that. ESPECIALLY an ex girlfriend.....I mean cmon. I just want to help because I understand how you feel and when I dumped the guys a*s who treated me similiar to this I soon realized what true love and respect is. Wish you the best...please reply I want to help ya girl!!!! Take care

THIS IS GOOD WORTH THE READ.....AND I AM SURE YOU HAVE READ IT BEFORE.....IT IS HARD TO APPLY THIS WHEN U LOVE SOMEONE BUT IF YOU DO IT WORKS...MY BEST

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what
makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another
rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

I did learn a lot today. I friend gave me a number to call to get free counceling today. Luckily enough the had an opening for me. I went in and talked to someone and it really helped me realize what the problem was. I have issues with my past and it has always been told to me by my mother and proved to me by men that hurt that "you can never trust a man" which is what the problem is. I am having troubles knowing that he is doing this for himself and not trying to punish me. I did as asked and started a journal to write down thoughts and do the exercises she told me to do to help me fix this problem that I am having. I love him and he loves me and I should trust him. If he breaks that trust it has nothing to do with me. It is with him then. Another issue I am having is that I feel deep inside that since I have been hurt numerous times it is obvious I am going to get hurt again or deserve to be hurt again. So, i guess I try to sabotage my own relationship unconciously. I am trying to make it through this and the journal seems to be helping. I just wish we werent on a break. I really want to talk to him and be with him, but I realize that i can't push him to do anything. i will post more progress tomorrow.