thoughts to contact ex after getting bad news

Got some bad news health wise yesterday and have this urge to contact my ex for comfort a familiar face to talk to because I do not have my family and friends around for support as they live in aanother state only over the phone contact...I have people at work to talk too and they listen but it's not the same of having someone closer to talk to.....my ex broke up 12 weeks ago but have had no contact for 2 weeks because he couldn't stay friends me

Hi birdie123, I'm sorry to hear about your bad health news.
If you want to contact your ex, I think you could give it a try. Just be aware that he may not react the way you would like him to. If he is still recovering from the break up he may not be in the right frame of mind to offer you emotional support. Or he may turn out to be supportive and a friend who can help you deal with this bad news.

Dear birdie123,


There is such sorrow in your words, and that is always a shame to hear. From what I can tell, this sounds serious, and a person you love and care about is always the best medicine for this kind of predicament.
I think there is never a bad time to reach out to someone you have cared about. I used to live in Japan and I was very alone, and I would call back home to my mom just to hear a familiar voice. Even seeing her on my computer screen made me forget about my sorrow for those few moments. I eventually quit my job and moved back home because I missed her and my doggie so much. It helped to bring back my happiness.
Your heart will always point you in the right direction, and you should always listen to it. I am pulling for you my friend! Keep your head and spirits high!

I feel so sorry for you.

I went through a similar experience - I phoned my ex-fiance 4 weeks after our breakup to tell him I have had a miscarriage and he was so nasty with me -he told me that keeping on phoning him upsets him and it only makes me think there is hope when there is not. So he told me to never contact him in any way again. So, on top of my bad news, I had to content with my heartbreak Again. I still have the need to contact him, to tell him about my days or to say I miss him but I thought up a little idea to cope: I made a box and I write "letters" to my ex and put it in the box. It helps a bit but that missing and that desire for someone who can love you and support you through the bad times persists. I hope you can find closure and that you can move on because I can really say: It hurts more when you cling to the false hope that he will support you than just making a clean break.

"All orthopedic surgeons will tell you: A clean break is easier to fix: You reset it and it will heal cleaner." - From the movie "Little Black Book"