Controversy

I wonder if anyone has got any advice of what to do about a situation?

I have this ex neighbour who used to live next door to me with his wife and some grown up children.
When they moved in (about 4 years ago) i was friendly and polite and tried to greet them when i saw them outside. This didn`t go down so well, the wife (who after my doubts about her recognizing me) would just look the other way and do her best on telling that i wasn`t worth a "hallo" or even a small nod!?

Nothing has happened, they have just moved in and i am trying to greet/get along with them(without being pushy).

Then about 6 months later we had an argument because of a bench they had moved too close to my window.
(That incident doesn`t really have anything with this case seeing as they were hostile before this happened, so i am just going to move on..)
After that incident the husband took in some flowers for me that were sent to my door(by my sister). So he did something friendly, i thanked him and thought it meant that we had put that whole "bench situation" behind us.

They still wouldn`t greet me.
I came home one day and the wife was standing outside the main gate just looking the opposite way when she me coming!????


Now they have moved(because they wanted a smaller & less expensive flat), they still live in the same neighbourhood.

My problem is that the husband works in the local shopping mall where i do most of my shopping(because all other shops are far away).

Some days he seems friendly and will chat a bit with me, other days he just looks the other way and looks a bit aggressive.

I think he has some mental problem, because he changes so fast.

I know he has had depression because he didn`t have a job(which can lead to depression).

Now he seems more pleased when he is standing in a shop(don`t know if he works there full time or if he is just looking after the shop while the owner is out?).

I see him there sometimes and sometimes in the street.

I haven`t seen his wife since they moved out of this (my)block, she spent a lot of time indoors except for in the summer when she wanted to sit in the backyard.

I have a suspicion that she might be jealous because she has noticed that her husband fancies me?
She looks like an aggressive woman yet she is also social with all the other neighbours just not me!??

Seeing as i haven`t seen her for some time, she is not really the issue, yet she is indirectly involved.

There is another woman who also lives in this neighbourhood (which is made up of a lot of similar blocks, with the same owner). She works out at the same gym as me, and she knows this couple.

I have seen her chatting with the wife outside of the mall. That other woman is a norwegian woman who have decided to become muslim, she married a muslim and wares a scarf on her head every day.

She is nice, friendly, smiles at me sometimes, but she did ignore me once in the gym when i was standing next to her.
I feel a bit paranoid, has the wife told her about the "bench situation"? Has the wife been malicious?

Its not good to feel as if someone is talking behind your back and you have no way of speaking up.

Maybe she hasn`t said anything? The day i saw them outside of the mall, they were sitting on a bench(not the bench from that situation, this bench had nothing to do with the other one which was situated in the back yard).

(Just for info: The bench usually stood on a play ground 10 metres away from my windows, i live in a low first floor flat and noise carries easily thru the windows when someone is talking/screaming right outside them, the neighbour wife had occupied that bench the whole summer, sitting there scaring away children who wanted to play on the play ground. She would sit there positioned in front of my windows from 17pm-11.30pm, seeing as its 10 metres away and in an area where you would expect it to be people i couldn`t complain about it. Then one day she decided to move the bench closer to my window. And that is when i complained.)

Well jumping back into present: She was sitting on a bench outside the mall with this muslim woman( i don`t think my neighbour is a muslim too? She is norwegian but her husband is foreigner, maybe from somewhere like Kroatia? But seriously i am not sure?

They were talking and i happened to pass by, they greeted me and so i greeted them back.
So the muslim woman has already greeted me, recognized me, yet in the gym she ignores me?

Its a lot of back and forward which is really confusing me, sometimes they will greet me, sometimes they won`t. It makes it hard to know where i got them.

Does the wife feel threatened by me?
Women can notice if a man gets aroused, maybe her husband got aroused when he saw me, and she noticed it-so she became aware?

I am single, living on my own.

When they first moved in here i wasn`t single, i had a boyfriend. We made some noises in the night

I asked my boyfriend several times if he could help me move the heavy bed which was leaning on our joint wall, but he never did.

A bit embarrassing to say this but i wonder if they felt threatened/embarrassed about that?
The bed was leaned up against a concrete wall, the only concrete wall i have in my flat. I know that on the other side there is an entry hall that leads into a living room. I once visited the neighbour who used to live in that flat.
Their sleeping room is a bit away, so i don`t know? Never heard anything from the board here, and it might not have helped moving the bed to another wall, as they are thinner.
Sometimes i can hear noises between the walls, but its rear and its only loud once. The bed bangs against the wall which is sound they might have heard? I can sometimes hear faint noises when my upstairs neighbours are doing it, but its not that loud so i just ignore it.
We broke up a few weeks later, so the problem went away but they would still be weird.

Further there is a law for muslims that they can`t date someone before they are married.

I have another elder male muslim in my block who saw me walking into my flat with my boyfriend one day.

Some days later when i saw him, he gave me a nasty look.