frustrated

soo here it is... i met this boy and when i say boy i mean 23 but isnt ready to grow up even though he thinks he is, in aug of 12 we have been dating since, let me just give you a list of things that i have dealt with in the not even last 5 months. first let me tell you that he has a good heart just doesnt know how to open it up and let someone love him, he has been cheated on in the past and i get the great pleasure of it getting taken out on me, for instance, he is allowed to talk to his old gf but i am not allowed to talk to mine, we are living with my sister and her hubby right now and he is allowed to talk to her and laugh at her but i am not allowed to do such things with her hubby, or it is considered flirting... then last month i caught him on a dating website talking to at least and im mean there was proly more than 25 girls about sex, and his penis and yada yada, i read some of these conversations and it took everything i had to not beat him! and he thinks that i shld just forgive and forget and trust again just like that, its not going to be that easy. maybe 3 wks later i had an ex bf txt me to tell me that he was clean finally and i didnt have to worry about him using drugs anymore, my txt back was congrats stay that way. conversation ended, i showed him so he wouldnt get mad and he blew up on me about hit me,throwing things around the room, ripping pictures, just went nuts... now i just got out of a 10 yr relationship a bad one myself, i am only 24, just imagine... i have been beat and abused, broken bones, raped, kicked screamed at, left behind, held in places for days with no food while i was pregnant, bad relationship. all that i am asking from this guy today who doesnt have a job or a car is to be at the hospital with me bc i need him next to me, bc my dad is in ICU dying and i dont want to be by myself and he is throwing a fit and wanting to start a fight bc he doesnt want to go.

cjsmith88 wrote: first let me tell you that he has a good heart just doesnt know how to open it up and let someone love him

I see....hmmmmmmmm

Dump him. Seriously, he hits you and he cheats on you, but somehow he has "a good heart". To be honest, it seems to me like you might lack a good image of not just what a good man is like, but also of what a good human being is like. A good human being doesn't act the way he acts nor even the way your previous boyfriend acted. I definitely get the impression that the current guy bullies you to some extent rather than comforts you and helps you when you need it which what a good person does.