Is my wife cheating on me?

Although this is my first post I have looked around a bit and I have seen a number of people who come on asking questions or advice and never have followed up. I promise that I will come back and acknowledge the advice I'm about to ask for

Is my wife cheating on me?

I'm going to make a long story short and give as much relevant information as I can.
Yesterday I came home and the wife was on the couch and said she had the flu or something, didn't feel good at all. Ok I said, I will watch our kid (1 year old child) just relax and try to feel better. But it didn't add up, she didn't act sick, her eyes were bloodshot and she was talking a bunch of smack instead of sleeping. I'm not stupid, something is off.
Ends up she drank 1/2 of one of those BIG bottle of vodka and took a few xanax. WHAT THE ****!! Then I finally talked her in to going to bed.
I don't know what drove me to check her phone, I never do, but I had a "feeling", so I did. First thing I notice is that the call log is empty. That's odd. We both have the same phones so I did a hard restart on mine to see if it deleted the call log and it did not. OK, now I know she did it on purpose. I logged on to our phone carrier and checked the call log there... low and behold 2 hours before I got home from work she was on the phone for 80 min's with a number. Somehow in a way I don't remember how, I found the name and it was a guys name. She does not have guy friends and if she did I would be cool with it, just don't hide anything from me.
Remember how I was saying she was talking a bunch of smack? While I was investigating she was in the other room drunk off her @$$ going off on me for no good reason. When I finally had enough evidence I asked her about it and she barked about me looking at her phone then passed out. Today while I have been at work she has been very apologetic about hiding the fact she was talking to this guy but insists that it was totally innocent. She states that it is an old friend from when she was a kid... but the call logs show 80 min's yesterday, 60 min's the day before, 20 min's before that, another 120 min's before that...

***My thought is that NO MAN would sit on a phone with any woman that long that many times unless he wanted to have sex with her... or they are currently having sex... or I don't know. I'm a man and I'm sorry, we don't do that.

There is a lot of other info I can share if asked... I really just didn't want to write a novel my 1st post here. But I'm thinking, as outsiders looking in, how does this look?

PowerJunkie wrote: But I'm thinking, as outsiders looking in, how does this look?

Like you need to spend some time listening to your wife.

Whether she's cheating or not, something is clearly bothering her at the moment. The way you describe her smack and vodka consumption suggests that this is not her normal pattern of behaviour. She sounds very troubled. You could be right in your suspicions, or perhaps this male friend is someone from her past who is harassing her or bringing-up unwanted memories.

The best person to tell you the truth is not someone on the internet, but your wife. So I'd wind-back the accusations, and consider how she is feeling first. When you have a better idea of what has happened, then you can make an informed choice about whether to be angry and to blame her for some wrongdoing.

Yes.. Or just about to..

PowerJunkie wrote:***My thought is that NO MAN would sit on a phone with any woman that long that many times unless he wanted to have sex with her... or they are currently having sex... or I don't know. I'm a man and I'm sorry, we don't do that.

You may not do that, but other men do. It could be he's harassing her, as javert suggested, he could be lying to her about you cheating on her and playing mind-games, he could have a personal situation that he's talking through with her [this makes sense if they are old friends]. For example, if he'd been abused in some way, she might be the only "safe" person to talk to, and that would be very hard for her to listen to, explaining the need to get out of her mind for a while afterwards. Maybe he abused her and is trying to apologise. Maybe they're talking about a family member who's in trouble and trying to work out how to help. There are MANY possibilities here.

Somehow in a way I don't remember how, I found the name

Please don't do this again. If you don't feel you can trust her, you need to talk that through with her. Sneaking around is going to damage her trust in you, whether you are right or wrong in the suspicion. If the situation is any of the ones I suggest above [based purely on what you've posted] and she's not cheating then you risk damaging the relationship beyond repair.

An 80 min phone call doesn't sound like it is a harassment call to me.
The fact your wife has spoken to this guy on a number of occasions and has not mentioned it to you is in my opinion being secretive (remembering she cleared her phone logs).
I don't think that going through her phone is the best idea and shows a lack of trust. If you doubt someone you should question them.
Find a sitter for your child then take some serious time out to talk to your wife it does sound like something is missing between you both.

If there is more to this maybe you should share.

I agree with the person who said you need to find out what's going on with your wife on a personal level. people don't slam vodka and xanax because they're happy and in love. that's a red flag that something serious is going on with her and you need to stop being suspicious of your wife and start worrying about her and talking to her about what she's feeling so badly about that she would do that. you also need to start respecting her privacy. it's not surprising that you're assuming this is about her cheating on you while you're going through her phone, because that action tells me you don't trust her, and are willing to sneak around behind her back to find anything you could interpret in a way that backs up your suspicions. you really know nothing. the facts don't add up to her cheating on you. it's a possibility, but why jump straight to that? you two clearly aren't communicating with each other, so are you really surprised that she's spending so much time communicating with someone else? if you're not going to be there for her, and are going to sneak around invading her privacy behind her back, of course she's going to turn to someone else, someone she may actually feel she has reason to trust. you going through her phone very clearly tells her "you can't trust me." so it's not surprising that you feel you can't trust her, since in my experience, untrustworthy people tend to assume that no one else is trustworthy, either.

No one on this forum probably knows for sure that she's cheating on you BUT . . . . . . . yeah, she's probably cheating on you.