I Have Pedophilic Attractions And Need Help Urgently

Let me sum it up. I'm sixteen. I babysit an 11 year old. I'm extremely attracted to her, and really struggling with self-control. Someone help here? Please? I feel so guilty. >_<

Hello and welcome to the forum Sorry.

So, short answer to a short question --> Stop babysitting her. Come up with a plausible excuse and quit. Get out of the situation. Or, is there something stopping you from doing that?

Yeah I agree with last post I'm attracted to girls and my advice would be she will soon become the object of your desire , you will get sucked further and further into these urges and desires until you break and do something you regret my advice as other post make your excuses or this i's going down the wrong path . Good luck

Firstly, don't feel guilty. It's not your fault that you feel this way. People can't help what they find sexually appealing.
Secondly, if you honestly feel that you won't be able to control yourself, you'll have to stop babysitting her, before you do something you'll really regret.
Not saying you will. There are people like you out there who do have self control. Just saying, in case.

Hello Sorry,

It's very good that you're seeking help. You don't need to feel any guilt at all for just having pedophilic attractions. I myself am a pedo, but I have stopped feeling guilt for just having these attractions. I didn't choose them and you didn't either. Even though it's unlikely, it's possible that your attractions can change when you become older. You are still very young.

You are in danger of ruining your life and her life too if you act on your attractions with this 11yo girl or any child.

I think it is the best for you to stop babysitting her. I second all the replies here. Please remember this: Do NOT have sexual contact with a child. I think this is never said too often.

Sounds like a historical situation that was repeated a million times; so not really a big surprise about the way you feel.

If I was you, I'd treat her as a dear friend.

I'm sure you are well aware of the nature of punitive law, and the perceived meanings of sexual touch in your culture (I'm guessing USA, UK...etc), so no need to go on and on about that.

Sounds like you have an issue with what's called "Insufficient Self-Discipline" in Life scripts theory; or "Out of Control" Injunction in Social Games theory. This is not something I have a problem with so I'm not sure how much insight I can give you? It's usually considered to be the outcome of certain parental strategies but I'm not sure which ones? Maybe your mother often remarked, 'I can't stop myself as she smoked a cigarette or ate junk food'? I don't know.

What I do know is it's a mind-game.

You are totally in control: not only of your 1. reactions to your feelings (love, arousal), but also 2. the creator of your feelings and arousal. A lot of folks never even realize 1 due to their victim-role playing, and very very few realize 2; to realize 2 is Enlightenment (the 3rd Nobel Truth).

Hope that helps.

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Just wait 7 years until she is 18 and then you two can hook up legally, yeah it does suck that even though you are only 5 years apart you can't have some sort of relationship but thats just how the world is and how society is. Yet its okay for a young 18 year old to marry a 87yo man in a wheelchair and nobody cares then, once they reach that magic number of 18 everything is okay then. So stop babysitting her and look her up in 7 years and see if you are still attracted to her, too bad you weren't like 13 then perhaps it would of worked out or possibly 12, lol gotta love a screwed up judgemental society!

Flame away at my comment and all the lame responses that will follow and call me negative and what not but you all know that 5 years difference when they are both kids themselves is not a big deal, yet once he reaches 18 and she is 13 then I would say hell no don't do a thing. Why is this sound so screwed up? Oh well

There's no need to feel guilty, just relax, and focus on avoiding committing sexual acts on her. If you need to stop babysitting her to avoid these, then stop babysitting her. Not becoming a sexual offender should have a higher priority than babysitting.

Kabuhi wrote:There's no need to feel guilty, just relax, and focus on avoiding committing sexual acts on her. If you need to stop babysitting her to avoid these, then stop babysitting her. Not becoming a sexual offender should have a higher priority than babysitting.

I've been giving this thread some thought over this week. If I was to guess what fuels "Out of Control" life script (see my post above), it would be exactly this.