To all minor-attracted people: What do you do to calm down?

I'm just wondering what some of you do to calm yourself down or relax and focus your attention on something else when you find yourself being triggered or when you're in the presence of young teens or kids. What thoughts or techniques help you or are more comforting that gets you through a situation like that?

The teachings of Jesus and the scriptures.

I honestly don't find it stressful in the way that I think you mean. That's not to say that I don't feel a degree of turbulence when I'm around, say, a 12-year-old girl that I really fancy. But in such circumstances what I'm feeling is no different to what I would feel were I to be in the company of an adult female whom I couldn't 'get with' for whatever reason (straight, not interested, not single, etc.). I guess I just focus on the realism of the situation, and keep in mind the fact that it's not a possible alliance, and then I find myself relaxed and just enjoying the attraction.

I'm something of a Daoist (in the philosophical sense rather than a religious one), so the fact that I just see things as natural means I'm not worried about it. Consequently I'm pretty carefree about my sexuality.

I avoid children/teens as much as I can. I just try to ignore their presence. It's difficult and often I just get extremely uncomfortable. I feel like everyone knows Im attracted to them.

I wish I had a way to cope.

well there is no "trigger" strong enough to make me break the law. I know my boundaries legally and morally and nothing can push me past them because I know the consequences. I think you just have to take a look but dont touch aproach. Pedophile doesnt equal sexual deviant. If you are impulsive then stay away from kids or at least make sure you arent alone with them. If not then just be a mature adult about it.

I don't understand what people actually mean when they say "triggered".
Do they use a fancy word as a cop-out?
Do they mean to say 'aroused'?
Do they mean to say "I am a monster without control so when somebody pushes one of my buttons I go berserk"?

In any event, I'm attracted to young teens, and if I see some pretty thing which catches my eye, I just discreetly look - without staring or being a creep about it.

Sometimes I do have a young girl on my lap though, and if she's wriggling around too much I feel uncomfortable and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable too, so I simply politely ask "how about you sit on the side of my legs instead" - as in, like this o||=, not like this /||\ or this \||/.

I sort of feel like some kind of weird dork now, for having taken the time to do that ^.

I know that for me if I know I will be somewhere there are young children that I may be attracted to I will honestly masturbate a few times before I leave the house so if I am around children then the feelings aren't as strong and it seems like majority of the time no feelings of sexual arousal are usually present. I guess it all depends on the situation.

Haven't been here in a while, but thought I'd respond. For me, if you mean "triggered" to mean that I find someone attractive, I just acknowledge it. I have come to a point in my life where I can look at a hot boy and think to myself, "nice butt" and that's pretty much as far it goes.

I don't treat it any different than a teleiophile who sees a hot woman and says the same thing to himself. I don't stare like a creep any more than most teleiophiles stare like a creep at a woman. I glance and I look away and that's the end of that. Maybe that evening I might have a fantasy about him at home, maybe not, but I don't feel a need to do anything more than that.

Jim

GinaSmith wrote:I guess I just focus on the realism of the situation, and keep in mind the fact that it's not a possible alliance, and then I find myself relaxed and just enjoying the attraction.

This, and I often practice breathing exercises. It helps to refocus my mind on other thoughts, such as what I'm doing at the moment or a fond memory not involving someone I'm attracted to. Sometimes the attraction is so strong I get a burning sensation in my chest and feel awkward trying to relocate my attention and rediscover my sense of placidity. The burning is often followed by a deeply blue emotion and self-criticising thoughts even your average perfectionist would gasp at.

But in general, I practice breathing exercises and asserting myself with positive affirmations/counter statements, and recognize the reality of the situation through examining my own situation with logical questions in mind.

In most situations being around a boy that I find sexually attractive will not interfere with my day. I can interact with boys without becoming sexually aroused.

That being said...I have been in situations where I certainly do become sexual aroused. In these cases I remove myself from the situation. When I cannot remove myself I focus on things that repulse me sexually. Old women seem to do the trick for me. I focus on that for a few seconds and...voila...problem solved.

I also try to be proactive. If I sense that I'm feeling more aroused than usual I try to relieve my arousal before a possible situation.