My wife wants me to have sex with other women.

We are all familiar with the quite common sexual fantasy amongst men where they wish their wives/girlfriends to have sex with other men. But I never realised that this fantasy can exist with the sexes reversed. My wife has dropped hints for many years and now she has more or less told me that this is what she would like me to do.

I am curious as to what must be going through her mind. What is it precisely that she finds exciting or sexy in the thought of me having sex with other women?

From the people that I know who have all done it, they have told me before in the past "don't do it." according to them it will always screw up your relationship in the future. beyond being morally wrong it will start the footholds for the end of your guy's relationship.

best of luck to you.

IT IS A VERY BAD IDEA!!!! there is no reason why in a relationship you have to sleep with someone else. Whats the point of being with one girl when she wants you to sleep with someone else?

Perhaps I read too many Dan Savage columns, but I don't think it necessarily has to end in disaster. It sounds like she may have a cuckolding fetish of sorts [if she wants to watch]. She could find it sexy that she knows that you are HERS but that she lets other women have sex with HER man.

Honestly, the best thing to do would be to ask her about it. What is she picturing...what does she want to get out of it...and of course, only do it if YOU want to do it. If it would make you uncomfortable or you don't want to--well, there are limits to being accommodating, you know? Simply considering it should be good enough.

And also--it doesn't have to end in disaster...but for it not to, if you want to do it, EVERYTHING needs to be explicitly laid out with rules etc. for everyone involved. What does this entail, what does it not entail, etc. etc. Otherwise it tends to lead to miscommunications and hurt feelings. [Or so I imagine. ]

It doesn't have to end in disaster. Nor, do you necessarily have to go through with it. Sometimes the fantasy of it is enough. Try role playing the parts and see how it goes. If this is really something she wants even the play acting should be a huge turn-on for her.

I've had plenty of fantasies that I've played out with women (both my fantasies and theirs') but none of them involved other people. This could be very rewarding or very disastrous.

Keep in mind, it could be a trick. Let her pick out the girl, organise the event, etc. Don't be too eager. When she asks if you want to have sex with another woman, the correct answer is "If this is what you really want, baby." If she's testing your faithfulness, she'll back off. If she's serious about this, well, you lucky dog

Get in there before she changes her mind. If she has bisexual tendancies cool, if it just fun an you dont mind ,great but if she is uncertian of her sexuallity an she finds your the one thats in the way, get ready to pack your bags. I watch a sex program the other night an this guy let his wife bring home women for them both to have fun with. her only rule was he must not orgasm inside the other woman. other than that fine. i could put up with that, she love him . But needed women an would only share them with him. He went out to the bar an when he came home, bingo jackpot