What keeps you from acting out your fantasy?

Most people here have some kind of fetish. Many of us go searching for porn for our fetish (or for something representative of our fetish, for the less legal ones), so we're at least indulging ourselves to an extent.

That's where the similarities seem to end. It seems like some people orgasm and are left with guilt and shame. Others feel no guilt, but hide their urges because they're socially unacceptable. Others hold back because of legal or religious consequences.

In the quest to understand myself, I want to understand the rest of you.

Have you ever transgressed fantasy?

What prevents you from acting out your fantasies?

In a perfect world, what would you change about your situation?

Bump...

Really? No takers?

death

me and an ex would have crazy bitey scratchy sessions
id leave a date with her with red arms with those amazing burning sensations she gave me that aroused my body to point of howling (i also growl and purr (im a lil odd (what can i say im a very bestial man))) anyways we both found idea of blood highly arousing, to extent i even had old post on this forum quering possibility of realistically including it into out foreplay taking it that step further.

anyway... in end, im a sensitive guy and altho i loved the sensations i loved my gf more and didnt ever want to harm her, so we happily continued, however she had a disorder that caused her somnabulistic tendences of self harm in sleep caused by nightmares (i dnt know how i find them) and one instance gashed her neck, she when awake asked me to try tasting the blood on her neck, nuthin has turned me on more than that ever, just being sooo close with a person to share ur bodies completely and mortally, i loved it

but yh unheathly and dangerous!!!

next is trying to stop flirting with ppl online :S

It's surprising that nobody responded until now. Maybe Christmas time and sexual fantasies are not highly compatible!

nightstrife wrote:Have you ever transgressed fantasy?

I'm not sure I understand this question. Do you mean, 'Have you ever acted beyond the limits of your sexual fantasies?' Would that be like doing something in practice that you had not imagined/fantasised about doing before?

nightstrife wrote:What prevents you from acting out your fantasies?

I don't think anything actually prevents me from doing so. Many of my fantasies I am happy to keep as fantasies - I know that I would not enjoy them in real life; it is the 'imagining' part that I most enjoy.

nightstrife wrote:In a perfect world, what would you change about your situation?

I would change the world so that it was no longer perfect.

But if you're referring to sexual fantasies, I cannot think of anything I would change. I do not feel any shame about my sexuality, and do not care whether it is perceived as socially acceptable by others. I wish people were generally more accepting of their own and others' sexualities.


What about you nightstrife? How would you answer your own questions?

Platypus wrote:But if you're referring to sexual fantasies, I cannot think of anything I would change. I do not feel any shame about my sexuality, and do not care whether it is perceived as socially acceptable by others. I wish people were generally more accepting of their own and others' sexualities.

Sure, we all wish that. Including the pedophiles, necrophiliacs, sexual sadists.

But I have a hunch you wouldn't want us to be 'generally more accepting' of these specific sexualities, as 'generally more accepting' can have the potential to translate into 'generally more do-able'.

I mean, I'd love to be more accepting of my desire to cut your face off and f*ck your corpse, but..

maybe thats why they should be kept at fantasys to a point sexual fantasys are fine as long as they do not endanger others...
and shudnt indanger or harm you

however i guess arousal is casued b fear/adrenaline and risky situations that may increase pleasure life is weird... no?

licht wrote:Sure, we all wish that. Including the pedophiles, necrophiliacs, sexual sadists.

But I have a hunch you wouldn't want us to be 'generally more accepting' of these specific sexualities, as 'generally more accepting' can have the potential to translate into 'generally more do-able'.

Actually, I think you are wrong about your hunch.
In my ideal world, a person would be able to say that they have fantasies about f#cking children, animals or corpses, without being treated with disgust or fear. I think the current social environment (that I live in - obviously some cultures may be different), with its fear of talking about sex, and even more so about non-monogamous, non-heterosexual, or non-normative sex, is damaging.

We know that people do have fantasies of sex with children, animals and corpses. We know that people have sadistic and violent sexual fantasies. Why ostracise these people? By offering them acceptance, they will be better able to gain help and support, and will be less likely to feel rejected by society. I suspect rejection and alienation may only encourage them to act-out their socially-unacceptable fantasies, as it is a way of attacking a world that does not understand or care for them as a person, and a world that does not respect their sexuality.

Fantasies do not have to correlate to actions. Many people may picture inflicting brutal violence upon others in the heat of an argument or after suffering injustices. Yet these people are not treated as probable murderers. In my culture, it is acceptable to say about a child, "I was so angry I could've killed her." Yet it is not okay to say, "I was so turned-on I could've raped her." This does not make sense to me.

So if you were to tell me that you have fantasies about cutting-off my face and f#cking my corpse, I would be respectfully curious. I'd want to ask you what is appealing about doing this. How do you think you would feel by committing these actions? What do you think the consequences might be? Is there any other way you could get the same kind of feeling? Most of all, I'd probably want to help you feel in control of your fantasies, so that you don't feel compelled to act them out. (I'm not sure I'm ready to test-out your facial surgery skills! )