Common aspects of fetishes

As suggested on another board, I'm going to split up my large topic into smaller pieces. The aspect I am most keen on for comments is the aspects of fetishes, what makes them up. Comments and feedback welcomed and appreciated, even negative ones


Common aspects of fetishes

There are many, many different fetishes out there, more no doubt than we could ever be aware of. But they tend to share common components with other fetishes.
Here are some I’ve seen. A fetish will often be made up of 1 or more these, almost never all of them, though it is possible for someone to be interested in 2 conflicting elements)
1) Helpless/powerlessness of the fetish “object” (I hate that word, but then there is a reason why it’s used). More common in guys as we tend to have the instinct to be on top and lead, and also a helpless or vulnerable girls awakens our protective instincts. Of course this can also be in females, awakening their maternal instincts and/or just making them feeling safe.
2) Helpless/powerlessness of self. The psychology site I posted says it far better than I could .
"We can understand this fact through reference to Freud’s concept of infantile sexuality. Actually, Freud missed the point by claiming that all adult unconscious conflicts derive from repressed infantile sexual impulses, because they don’t. But still, in missing the point, Freud points to the right thing: infantile experience.

Think about this for a moment. What experience must every infant encounter? Well, it’s the experience of lying naked and helpless during dressing, feeding, bathing, etc. And in this experience are complex emotions of both pleasure and violation. Part of the infant enjoys the attention and stimulation resulting from its helplessness, while part of the infant wants nothing but the ability to put an end to its helplessness and start taking command of its own life. In fact, making the transition from total helplessness as a mere object to total responsibility in subjective being defines the psychological task of child development.

This “total responsibility” is also a profound spiritual task that few of us actually negotiate fully. Yes, we stumble through the psychological transition from infancy to adulthood, but still some part of us balks at the idea of taking full adult responsibility to understand and commit ourselves to meaningful life. And so we have fantasies that keep trying to pull us back into that infantile helplessness. The crucial point to grasp here is that as adults we experience these infantile emotional yearnings as adult sexual scenes. It’s as if a profound unconscious “short-circuit” connects our reproductive biology with our infantile need to be seen and accepted.

3) A feeling of safety or protection. I think this applies to almost all fetishes, even the masochistic ones (bizarrely, one could feel safe under someone’s heel (metaphorically or literally). And freedom is a scary thing, because it means responsibility. Obviously this applies to more than just fetishes. It applies to just about anything, because we all want that feeling. Which makes all the more understandable we'd have a feeling or fetihs designed to conjure that feeling

4) The feeling of freedom or liberation. Maybe the conditions one feels safe to express oneself? I don’t fully understand this.
Expressing oneself is emotionally healthy, and what we do not express or otherwise deal with stays locked inside us and comes out in some or other.But we can only feelfree to express ourlseves in a safe enviroment. This can play into a power fantasy, where one wants power to feel safe(see 5).

5) A power trip. Power here, defined as strength, domination or influence over something. Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac, etc. I suspect this aspect might be more popular in people frustrated at society or the world. Can involve having your power trip through the opposite (or same sex, if you swing that way) object as well your “avatar”.
One can also want power to feel safe, since if one has power they may feel they can't be harmed by others, and thats a liberating experince. They may feel free to act in ways they wanted to but couldn't (without facing hostile reaciton) or express themselves without being put down.
Edit:
Another random though I wish to right.
Fetishes and such are most often shaped by our early itneractions with oru parents, but they could be from other experinces or as part of growing up. It is also possible it comes ina dolesnece, which is the time (for most people) our sexuality emrgres, but thats usally something that was there emerging or being complete, as opposed to the creation of something new

Edit 2:
Oh and I wonder if fight/violence/destruction in ANYTHING could be some projection of our rage and anger, possibly at the times we've felt helpeless

6) The feeling of being free from harm. Probably strongly linked with the last one, but I feel it warrants a separate category.

There are probably more, but these are all I can think of at the moment. Suggestions welcome.
I theorize our imagination replays part of our past (not as stupid as it sounds) or creates something to fill the part in us that is missing it. So I believe particular fetishes either come from the way we are raised (or the conditions) at a very young age or something we see puts the idea in our head (though it is more likely that it is awakening something that is already there).
Oh and an important note, the same fetish can apply to different people for different reasons